Especially since they went with “her brain was the cure.... except only one non-replicable dose of it”. Which makes zero sense and makes the entirely storyline just a way to give Clive a traditional American family. (By the way, “I promise to never make you feel sad that I won’t be a father because of what you are”…

Nobody wants your “usually”. Seriously. I don’t date anymore and I’m worried for my daughter because of guys like you, who can’t tolerate the idea that they’re *doing something bad and wrong* and insist it has to be someone else’s fault. Why? Because they want something and aren’t getting it, therefore they must be…

Hell no. Because what I’m all done with in my life is dudes suddenly turning into 200-lb toddlers when they hear “no”. I do not need more holes in my walls. I do not need more being shouted at. I do not need more being told how much I suck because, bottom line, I haven’t given them what they wanted. #yesallmenevenyou

Dude. Fuck off and read the comments (his and mine). He’s borderline. There are NUMEROUS instances that back up how this kind of behavior BECOMES toxic behavior.

You are the kid in the article, aren’t you? That’s about the only way I can rationalize your extreme anger and venom after reading this entire entire thread. Chill out. Not every second sentence you type needs to be an attack or exclamation of anger.

clear communication leads to clear results, and unfortunately in more than a few cases those clear results are acts of retaliation for being rejected - which may or may not be physically violent but most assudidly are unwarrented, unwelcome, and abusive.

bro im with you stalking isn’t a thing and it never escalates to assault and even if it does they don’t usually murder anyone and even if they do they usually stop at one and even if they don’t stop at one they always get caught and even if they don’t get caught it’s the chick’s fault in the first place for not making…

She might be afraid of him. I wouldn’t be surprised if she never came back to the home town, or at least kept it secret from him if she does. Even the most unexpected of men can turn nasty if you reject them (speaking from bitter experience).

Agree completely. It’s an ongoing thing for all ages. But we need to change this idea that “young and in love impulsiveness” is charming. It isn’t.

No. He’s really not. He’s on the border of toxic blaming her for trying to let him down easy. We just had a kid shoot up a high school with a shotgun over a girl turning him down. Here’s a kid who, predictably, is shifting the blame to the girl who isn’t as dedicated to a long-distance relationship as he is. So much…

He’s lonely and obsessed with a woman who obviously is trying to get out of the situation. And yeah, it sucks. No-one wants to be rejected, most of us male and female have been there. I feel for the girlfriend that he is “settling” for. Pretending that he’s into her while obsessing about someone else? That’s cruel.

She is being very direct. Impressively direct, when she tells him that she doesn’t want to put in so much effort.

Because, clingy, demanding, rude, possessive assholes who can’t/won’t learn the signs of normal interactions and who think women are obligated to do things for them SHOULD BE SLAPPED DOWN.

“She probably didn’t want to be direct about it, but that’s what seems to be the case here.”

I really appreciated the snarky responses as a woman who has had men continue to harrass me (at work one of them) after I said no and took steps to never be alone with them again. If CCS is a decent person hopefully they will take a step back and move on.

How many stories have you ever read about a woman being honest and telling her stalker to go away and the stalker saying “ok thanks for being straight with me, I’ll back off” ?

Bottom line, CCS, 10, 15, 20 years from now (or maybe even sooner) you will wonder why you pressed so hard on this. You will have met someone new who “no one will compare to in your eyes,” and you will feel stupid for pressing your old friend so hard on trying to stay together. In fact, you will try to downplay the…

I’m certainly not trying to frame the writer as being unstable in any way, but there are enough pieces there that the only type of person who thinks that relationship is going to work is the type that is teetering on the “toxic/incel” border.

That’s what my wife and I did, but then we also had a proposal so we’d have a cute moment to look back on. I’m kind of surprised how many people think this is either-or, when it’s probably the most common to do both.

Most of what you say is true, especially after kids. But, there’s still some fun and excitement about engagements and weddings. You’re celebrating your lives and future together with close friends and family.