I have long thought a very similar thing about standard heterosexual weddings. I tried on a couple of white wedding dresses before I got married, and they felt kinky as shit. Everything was about emphasizing the boobs and butt, but white so that everyone can wonder if you’re “allowed” to wear white (my relatives…

Shelter Cat Update!

I’ve never had a hankering to throw axes, but I can sort of see the appeal. Also: yayyy for being fully vaxxed, including your young one. I am now fully vaxxed as well—my husband and I drove our new vehicle up north to see his mom and stepfather and we got HUGS for the first time in two years (also, only the second…

Whoa! So much to love in your post! I'm really happy life is smiling at you.

Ohhhh, that’s exciting and cool. I love adapting ancient and medieval recipes—a bit more difficult since I’ve stopped eating meat, but still possible. It’s just a reminder that things don’t change all that much (including the facts that the Romans just made use of their empire to import everything they could—and…

Mothers aren't always right, and sometimes just aren't very compassionate, no matter what pain you're feeling. I hope you get what you need to feel better. Mental health is so important, and not all that easy to maintain. 

That meal looks super good and is also very photogenic! What's the bread? Man I love bread.

If you win a vitamix blender in a work fitness challenge, it turns out you feel just as compelled to use it as often as possible, even though you are not the one who spent a stupid amount of money, on a blender. I made GoddessofTransitory’s jalapeno pesto this week, with spaghetti, and today’s creation, frozen…

There was one of those where I used to live! It was supposed to be a blast, and it was BYOB. 

Heh, she said “hard”. (Sorry, had to.)

I suggest that most women should make out with me a little bit to make sure they’re actually straight.

Force yourself to keep your next therapy appointment. Send what you just wrote here to him/her/they; no edits, no clean ups. Tell Therapist this is where you’re at and you need help, now.

We don’t need AC at home, and I wish we could turn the ones at work OFF. You’re all hot and gross when you get there so the first ten minutes are great. Then slowly, you start to get cold...colder...your toes go numb (why did you wear sandals?)...your arms go goose bumpy, and soon your adorable summer outfit is…

Okay, this is just an internet hug from a stranger—but HUGS to you. And it sounds like you’re coping. That might not sound like much, but you’re figuring out what’s bothering you; you’re self-aware; you’re right about the people close to you not being able to help you (even if they don’t have things on their…

No one ever knows exactly what’s going on with vaccinations here in Panama, but the word is that second shots are starting soon in my province. Exciting if true!

I need to talk about something I didn’t get to last weekend.

Hey, all! Please make a concerted effort to star the greys whose comments are now lost, forever, if they come after the jump.

We put the air conditioners in in May, because there were a few days where it was 90, then memorial day weekend was frigid, and it’s back to gross and humid again, so I’m enjoying the fan function of my air conditioner right now!

I need a minor miracle. I made two more trips out to a neighboring county to try to get the remaining two strays from a family of four and I just don’t know what I am even doing anymore. I didn’t see the third kitten either day, so that’s a whole other problem, and the mom appears to have some serious periodontal…

Air conditioning is the one thing I will fight for in the environmental apocalypse. I figure I have a low carbon footprint in other areas—I rarely travel (even pre-covid); I eat a vegetarian diet and am slowly cutting back on dairy; I have no children; I am buying only used clothing (almost only used—underwear, sports…