Oh god, do you have a guest bedroom? 

Nope. I would not mess around with raw fish either. 

That monkey was celebrating your new life!

So great when things turn in a better direction. I'm happy for you!

I posted around Thanksgiving about struggling with a divorce from an emotional abuser while in law school, and just about two months later, I’m two weeks (!!) away from the divorce finalizing and have locked down a dream summer job with a V10 firm (really good firm!) in my dream/home city (San Francisco!). I haven’t…

We went to a beach this week and it was a really fun day. The beach was on an unpopulated small island, and we found a guy with a boat to take us there and pick us up later. The water was warm and very salty, so it was super easy to float around. And there was a howler monkey and he was roaring! He sounded like a sea…

Shelter Cat Update!

Indoor gardening today and having some revelations. My girl Pearl here is quite good at taking up space. Why don’t we take up more space as well? Someone’s going to take that space, might as well be me.

Here’s a Darwin pupdate, for everyone who is a fan of cute puppers:

Shit. You can all pay me to talk with you. I have a PhD in Child development and 25 years experience working with young children including infants ( my actual specialty).

As goddessoftransitory says, it would be good to start with a lawyer to find out what your options are. Many (all?) lawyers give a first consultation free of charge, which is an amazing bargain. I don’t know if they can mediate themselves, or if they have people on staff; I have no knowledge about that process. Maybe…

Go to a lawyer first thing; all the nebulous anxiety about the process can be resolved at least in part by hearing in concrete terms how things work, and having a professional in your corner to sort out facts from emotion will be invaluable.

today was a perfectly wet west coast day on our little island. next week is a short work week and I am soo looking forward to spending the long holiday weekend by myself!! (with my dog obvs)

Thank you! It's a relief to be un-visitable.

Hi Everyone - It’s been a few months since I’ve even looked at SNS. I’m in the greys, but I’m hoping that one of our fantastic regulars will see this & help me out. So what does anyone know about divorce, specifically divorce in Ontario, Canada? I need to start preparing myself. My wife pretty much hates me. I realize…

When you physically relocate far away from the narcissist, you get even a more accurate and scary picture of how dangerous these people are. The damage they cause, these people.

My entire family revolves around my unbelievably mean narcissistic and scapegoating mother, my dad and siblings enable her nastiness and lies so that she doesn’t turn her evil thoughts and deeds against them. Dealing with a narcissist is horrific. I wish you didn't have to, but good on ya for the win!

Hey kitty cats! Big week here, what with getting a library card and trying to teach manners to the badly behaved puppy, now just eight or so weeks old. She maintains her adorableness (strangers all want to pet her and she squeaks happily when they do) and she now gives side eye. It’s not been easy trying to train her…

I accidentally had a mullet once. I looked like a gender-bent Harry Potter. Never again, man.

Y’all, I have been dealing with my super manipulative narcissist MIL and I fucking won a battle. I will win this damn war too if it kills me.