That sounds like an amazing idea to me.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I want to give you all the internet hugs. I've had a similar experience, and I don't know if you've sought/considered seeking counseling or even talking to someone at RAINN, but it's been helpful for me. It's really difficult to try to process all the trauma of sexual assault and…

Ugh, the whole "I don't need any more friends" thing. I've always wondered how in fuck could someone be interested in a relationship with me if they're not interested in me as a friend. Plus, how can that even be a real thing? "I see you're well qualified for friendship, and you would normally be a strong candidate,…

It's because of the international dateline, just like when you travel to the US from Japan and you arrive before you even left.

There you go changing the goalposts again.

Nope. Overweight =/= passively killing yourself, and unless you are privy to all of a person's medical records, and are, in fact, a highly trained medical professional, you cannot know whether a person is healthy or not or what the unhealthiness is caused by or if they can safely exercise or whatever. And if you…

You're coming off like an extreme narcissist here. You're acting like you know what's best for millions of people that you don't even know better than they do themselves, and it sounds an awful lot like you don't think people have a right to bodily autonomy. And you are moving the goal posts. It's laid out here for…

And a lot of it's just concern trolling anyway. It's a socially acceptable way to belittle and discriminate against someone. The concern is just a pretense for vocalizing prejudiced garbage.

Oh my god, my heart really goes out to your cousin. And to you for dealing with shitty MDs. I've had a really hard time with doctors and discrimination, but I'm starting to realize that most of the stigma I've gotten happened when I was big. I was in the hospital when I broke my feet, a second hospital after getting…

I guess the crux of it is that why someone is fat is none of anyone's fucking business. Also, I shouldn't have to disclose my mental health history in order for someone to not judge me for my appearance, and I could have been clearer about that. I don't deserve the indignity of disclosing my personal history in order…

Thanks. I am still working on that. I've gotten to the point where I've accepted that I have always hated my body no matter what it looks like. I've hated it everywhere in a range of well over 100 lbs. There was a huge difference in how I was treated though, which has been inversely proportional to my weight. Doctors…

I must be missing something, because I didn't see that happening in this thread, but I see that others have. That's not reflective of my viewpoint, so I'm wondering what's happening here.

I think it's fair to bring up how issues like weight affect people with other intersections of oppression like mental illness. I don't think it makes other reasons why people might be fat less legitimate, I just think we have a place in this discussion because we are largely discounted and forgotten everywhere,…

I took a medication that made me gain 95 pounds in 7 months. It was also amazing the difference a few months and quite a few pounds made in how much worse I was treated by people, including medical doctors who should have known better. I was super unhealthy: I had hypothyroidism, high blood pressure, and was…

Yes, it's really tricky. I feel like if I were in a situation where my group was being discriminated against and it wasn't safe for me to speak up without, I wouldn't want everyone else to just be quiet. I also think it's ok if people get things wrong sometimes, as long as they are really trying and are willing to…

I think these are all really good points. It is very tricky, and I don't mean to ignore all of the nuance involved. I don't think men should speak for women to the extent that they are speaking over us or further marginalizing us but I think that, generally, I have confidence that people can identify bullying and…

I agree with all you are saying, but it also gets fucking exhausting to be in a group of guys, and be the only person to speak up about sexist comments, like it's not their responsibility. I get that not everyone agrees, but if I am present, men are also welcome to point out misogyny to other guys. If I talk about it,…

It's also ok, and indeed, largely desirable for men to point out sexist shit when they see it. When you (and by you, I mean guys and not you, LaComptesse) see this kind of thing happening and you don't say anything, you are complicit in oppression. You're sending a signal that sexism and objectification (in the form…

Um, yes, almost exclusively, and I've regretted all of the exceptions. We are people, and people like being with other people who respect them. This idea that we like to be treated like shit is beyond confusing, and it's complete nonsense. If a woman is attracted to a guy that doesn't treat her well, it's a 100%…

All of this is a perfect response to the OP and also doubles as brain bleach for everyone else, which, thank you. I was completely about to lose it until bunnies.