You guys aren't really in any position to complain about people twisting and cherry-picking stats. And people aren't "pretending" that sexual violence isn't gendered, they disagree that it is gender-based. Words have meanings, stop using "gendered" to mean "gender-based".

No, women definitely commit as many acts of violence as men, this we know for sure, even from other studies that only study heterosexual relationships. There's actually TONS of evidence suggesting that men and women commit the same amount of violence, it's just that feminists hate the metrics that turn up those…

Who is "they"? The numbers I quoted were for victims of sexual violence in the 12 months prior to the study they are from - and with 46% of the victims reporting a female assailant it's kind of hard to say "most" any which way, and it doesn't break out the numbers for LGBT (unfortunately - we are a seriously…

It wouldn't be hard if so much of the people who say they want to talk about it do it in such a way as to intentionally derail existing conversations. Poisoning the well, as it were.

Both, but primarily the first one. When the concept of "homosexuality" started to come about, it was conceived of as a mental illness that made people violent sexual predators. We're all more familiar with the trope of gay men as rapists, in part because men were potential homosexuals before women were, but once…

There are issues around reporting women inflicting the violence - 38% of victims of sexual violence (rape, not just verbal harassment) were men - and 46% of those victims had women as the assailant. The idea that only men rape, and only rape women is harmful to getting the violence addressed.

Not an ax. The family member of a victim, who knows when it happens to you, all the studies and statistics don't mean shit. But thanks for your compassion.

Actually, there's very little research on intimate partner violence within LGBTQ relationships, but much of the better research on it suggests that rates of violence within same-sex relationships are roughly the same as rates within heterosexual relationships. If lesbians are beating each other up at the same rates…

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I'm female and a feminist, and this headline sucks. The information in your article is fantastic, and makes multiple good points, but that headline is sensationalist clickbait.

Sad. I'm going to watch my "Bob Newhart Show" DVDs today.

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