Apple missed his views because they didn’t vet him before he was hired; his resume looked good on paper, he almost certainly networked with the right people, and nobody in tech really cares if you’re a sexist ass as long as you don’t stir up PR trouble.

Yeah, no. You CAN ABSOLUTELY get rid of them. Even if they made you who you are. Abusers and terrible people made me the way I am in some ways. One side of my hypervigilance means I’m a very attuned to the feelings of others. This allows me to make a very quick emotional assessments and develop a rapport with people…

I’ve seen this info in passing, but your endorsement has me intrigued. I’m in a happy communicative marriage — so very lucky on that front. My area for improvement is with my female friendships. I live like one of those women who says, “It’s just easier to be friends with men than women,” except I WANT and ENJOY…

Attachment theory truly changed my life. One day I was complaining to my boss for the millionth time about my ex who I was madly in love with who yanked me around for years and confused the shit out of me at every turn, and she was like “go back to your desk right now and google ‘dismissive avoidant’ — you will read a…

It’s weird how badly we want what we can’t have.

This is... so spot on and excellent. I really, really resonate with this.

James has become your stand-in for perfection, a state that is hard to envision unless it is shrunk to the dimensions of a person, place, or thing.

The mammogram thing is definitely old news. I’m scheduled for a mammogram tomorrow and not only did the scheduler ask me, but when they sent my text reminder today there was a note asking me to reschedule if I had received a COVID vaccine less than four weeks ago.

Let’s be 100% clear about what is happening. The sitting President, who legitimately lost an election via the same process that he legitimately won an election four years ago, has spent the last two months convincing supporters that the election was stolen, and now after a rally in which he incited them to commit…

If he dies, his acolytes will claim he did it on purpose, so he can lead an underground army.

Only Denis Quaid can get us through the Day After Tomorrow.

“...and as he gazed down into the beckoning maw, there he saw a horror unlike those previously known to the civilized world. At least he thought it was “down”. He couldn’t be sure... but something gripped his very soul. At least he thought it was his soul... but he was losing track of his train of thought, in…

Oh, whatev. If they wanted to do this right, they’d give Courtney a backstory in which she terrified her parents by listening to Slayer, got her federally-subsidized lunch cut at school by the Reagan Administration, did coke off a toilet seat in a filthy bathroom in a club somewhere on the Lower East Side, cried after…

“Anyone else remember the Gregorian Chant phase from... oh, the late 90s?”

I carest not if it be accurate, I shall show a sinful ankle and shake what the almighty god gave me.

When ending a relationship that is not a “burn it with fire” situation... I think you have to allow negative emotions to exist. Both for yourself and for the other person. Yeah, the other person is going to be upset. Maybe they are going to think you jerked them around. You are going to miss the person because they…

I was in a relationship for almost 6 years, and at least half that time I knew I should end the relationship because I did not love her the way she needed. But I had my own mental things going on and it was easier just to keep moving forward without any sense of direction.

Yes. A cost and a risk. I’m leaving a business-with-friend-elements relationship right now, and while I wish I could say it’s a 100% best possible decision, there are risks and costs for me and the other party coming with me. That’s been one of the hardest things to come to terms with as an adult, that there are no…

I dumped someone like this—a really excellent friend. Someone I could see building a life with. Someone I didn’t think I’d ever really love. I somewhat regretted it off and on for years. We kept in touch for a few years, but his hurt would come out in late-night conversations. We, unfortunately, were not able to make…

Oklahoma does not, in fact, have a set of keys to the state. It’s a tangle of old ropes tied together with granny knots. Just make sure you re-attach the bungee cord and put the lawn chair in front of the gate, otherwise the Cleevus’s dogs will get in and shit on the lawn.