Honestly, it's people like you that made me go from spending 4 years in radical activist work to working within the system and basically staying away from any activists that don't at least have law degrees or some other skill that has made them pay close attention to meanings, not just buzz words.

Well, from personal experience, I don't think that's exclusively the outlook of the "disgusting pig rapist" types. I hear men and women every day (and outside my jobs, where I work with rapists and victims) talking about how they do things to people without consent just because they think it's normal.

Humans are biologically programmed to find the smell of fecal matter repulsive. Not feeling that way is a fetish, not the norm.

Obviously that's your assumption, and it's a wrong one.

Also, please explain to me how I have presented a heteronormative construct here? Because I really think you have come to that impression by misreading or reading what you want into my posts. As a queer person, I know my own views are not heteronormative.

Wow, you are going to blame me for you misinterpreting a term that has a much broader meaning than it's relatively recent political adaptation?

So, I went to school in the Bible Belt. Saving vaginal sex for marriage was definitely a thing there, but my friends that felt this way did not seem to be into the anal sex option at all. The guys seemed to be worried about the shit and the girls were worried about the pain.

Love how you can't point out where I said anal sex is wrong, or in your words that "gay sex is super icky".

agreed.

Can you not read? Where did I say anal sex itself is not okay? I'm queer and am fine with anyone doing ass stuff. But NO ONE should think it's normal for drunk strangers to be doing it without extensive preparation and communication. Because a) that's a great way to spread aids, e. coli, and other things, b) get…

Or, maybe in your anger, you haven't even been reading my posts well. Nowhere have I ever said anything about specific sexual acts. What I get angry about being considered "normal" is libertine attitudes towards sex. If you think that doing anything sexual without having had extensive discussions about safety and…

Can you just not get over that I used the word normal in the same paragraph as the words anal sex? Because I don't understand why you think I said that anal sex isn't normal. I didn't. I said anal sex as a first act between strangers (implying they did not even talk about the act or prep for it) should not be…

Honey, you are clearly clueless about how the system works. Do you know what a "reasonable person" standard is? Please tell me how to get rid of that core concept of the common law legal system, because as someone who DOES fight the system for a living, I've been really at a loss.

Or, maybe if you think like these teens, you're part of the problem? Or are you just completely missing how I haven't even been talking about the vic and perp here, but rather been criticizing the teens that heard about this and thought nothing of having anal sex in public after heavy drinking?

I never said it was inherently gross. Believe me, as both someone who works SA cases and a person with a prominent lgbt sex educator as a brother, I know exactly what one does to prepare for it. And so I just find it strange when people like these teens think it's normal to do it without the physical and emotional…

So, as a criminologist I'll just tell you that what these kids consider normal has a direct correlation to how the criminal justice system and juries will treat rapists. I've personally done exit interviews with jury members that let rapists walk because of their (imo fucked up) views on sex.

Yeah, and how do people (other than rapists, who take advantage of this) not know that a large number of women respond to sexual attacks by trying to reclaim their sexual agency and/or restore their faith in men/humanity by engaging in more sex acts. Like, she's probably not being a "slut", she's more likely trying to…

Uh, so you think that it's NOT messed up that teen's ideas of what a "normal" sexual encounter looks like are so messed up that they can't see that a drunk girl screaming at getting anally penetrated in the back of a pickup is probably rape?

He might just be a sociopath. And people are idiots and tend to love sociopaths. After all, they're charming, confident, good at reading people, and often quite fun.

Re question 2: Predators tend to be narcissists, which makes them incapable of realizing that there version of reality is more self-serving than accurate. I work with rapists, and a staggering number of them admit to doing actions that constitute rape or assault, but are able to easily make up rationalizations about…