Rapists are twice more likely than their victims to be drunk...

i've done a lot of dating, and never once did i feel the need to tell a near stranger that their anatomy was appealing... Like, who the fuck cares? If you are a decent human being you will learn to form bonds based on more important things than looks.

Wait, Adele and TSwift DON'T have looks to thank (partly) for their success???

They're 18, their brains won't be done developing their prefrontal cortex for another 5 years. They can easily be rehabilitated.

" I'm talking about why an individual would have PTSD in response to one event and *as opposed to another.* You're talking about people more disposed to PTSD"

hey idiot, when did torture and "standard assault" become synonymous?

And, as I already said, there have been tons of studies on why people respond to trauma. No, it is not simply about "value systems" and cultural values. It's gender, genetics, neurobiology, the availability of social support (which is so often absent for rape victims; hence high ptsd stats there according to many…

Hey, you know what's kinda dumb? Making assumptions about how I know this. Yeah, i experienced trauma, but i also studied it in grad school. What i just said lines up with the generally accepted views in the psych world, fyi:

have you ever talked to someone who drowned and was resuscitated? I have, so idon't really care what YOU consider to be "very well known"

I don't know where you got your information from, but over the years I've traded stories with a lot of people (and docs/nurses) who went through what i did, and all but two said they also experienced a sense of calm and peacefulness. The guy and woman who said they were panicking the whole time had drowned and choked,…

why don't YOU dig deeper? Why do you spend 15 minutes reading some abstracts the 100s of articles out there that explain the brain changes in PTSD and investigate the factors that complicate healing from trauma and you'll find your answer about why rape victims are statistically more likely to develop ptsd and why it…

No, you have no idea what i felt and you have no fucking clue what happened to me. Being revived after 10 seconds of being "dead" constituted real death to the medical professionals, so maybe you could stop being an asshole who has to be right about everything. Rape was and continues to be worse than death for me, and…

Please don't try to tell me how I felt while someone was trying to kill me. No, I did not experience a fear of death. It was quick; I did not know what was going on and therefore didn't have time to be afraid. When I was hurt, it was not terrifying; it was peaceful. Actually, the rape is what has caused horrible,…

Well, I actually experienced attempted murder too (separately, as a child), so actually i do feel like i have an ability to compare the two experiences, thanks. The feeling of almost dying was actually peaceful, despite the violence that led up to it. I would have chosen that again over rape.

I don't think you are trying to look at this from the perspective of people with (very common) alternate views of death. Death for many is not "the end of your existence on this earth" as you say. Also, not everyone cares about what happens with the people you leave behind. Death is much more a part of daily life some…

As a rape victim, i think you are totally wrong. Maybe for some people the pain in a purity thing, but for me it's just a memory thing. Short of scientists developing some sort of Eternal Sunshine device, I will have to live with the memory of it forever. Every time i watch a sex scene in a movie, or see magazines at…

just saying, i would bet a lot of money that most rape victims do not get the support they need from their families. If rape was so easy for other people in this society to understand, then we'd have a lot mor success with jury trials of rapists.

Have you ever been with a partner that is fully respectful of your boundaries?

Or he could try be less dependent on her for is pleasure and learn to masturbate better...

Why can't people just masturbate? The amount the average American is dependent on other people for their pleasure is just ridiculous.