I had the same thought. Feminism means protecting fetuses! And lower taxes! Feminism means never having to say Happy Holidays! My local diner serves Pepsi products instead of Coke, and every time I go I’m like “excuse me, I’m a FEMINIST.” Feminism is against net neutrality because women can profit from monopolies…
1) I honestly gave it zero thought, I just went for it
You know iTunes? Of course you do, it’s iTunes. You know how sometimes when you log into your iTunes in a fairly populated area, you can pick up on the iTunes accounts of other people, and see and listen to their music? Through the magic of sharing or iCloud or something? (I don’t know how it works. Whatever.)
“both jobs are in the same (insanely huge) organization.”
I would inquire about the timeline at Job B and reiterate just how much you want to work for them even though you have a few other options on the table right now. So, it’s not a threat, but they get the message that you’re in demand.
I once did exactly this, and it worked out very very well for me. I had a job offer from job A - but I didn’t want it as much as job B. I let job B know I had another offer (I don’t think I said where), and job B worked like crazy to get me an offer and to beat the salary I had been offered. In fact, they called me…
I was in a similar situation.
Ohhh, I see. Well in that case, I guess I would wait and use it as leverage? I don’t know; this is where I wuss out and take whatever anyone gives me, so I am definitely not your source of advice from this point onward!
Let Job B know. As BotI said, it will either tell them to speed things up a bit, or they will let you know if you should move on.
I don’t think it’s “what would a man do” but more “what is the BEST thing FOR ME?”
A lot of this depends on the jobs. If Job A is happy to wait, then you can wait until you hear back from Job B. I think it’s fine to let Job B know you got an offer but would prefer them - sometimes they’ll let you know then anyway. When my sister was in a similar situation, her Job B was like, “Look, don’t wait on us…
Well i am a man, but I have next to no professional experience (about a year after I left High school and 3 months in current job). So not sure I can be of any use.
Okay so you know how you’ve got this higher standard for yourself? My whole life I’ve said if you can help, you should. Which, in the last couple years, has led me to make some really astoundingly weird life choices. Because suddenly I can help even a little and now I’m basically fucked forever. Walking and talking…
my great grandmother said “I never realized how attractive fat people’s faces could be until you.”
“I don’t know what you would have done if we hadn’t adopted you- you wouldn’t make a very good prostitute”. (Adopted as a child from a communist country. It was a true statment, but vulgar coming from a parent. Emancipated shortly there after).
You win for Best Comeback.
As she was putting the turkey on the table for Thanksgiving dinner, “It’s a Butterball, just like Missy.”
My mom is an incredible woman but suffers from alcoholism. Sometimes she is a very mean drunk and during those times she has said the most cruel things about my appearance- seizing on my insecurities I had shared with her and throwing them back in my face. But the worst was when she sarcastically said my rape was hard…