Jez ran a post awhile back asking why politicians wives all make the same "choice" not to work. That seems like it could be parlayed onto most high-income earning men : their wives don't work (in the traditional sense, yada yada, you know what I mean.)

Supposedly the remaining twin will be okay. She might need heart surgery or it might be minor enough they can leave it alone for a few years. We'll find that out when she's born (about 8 weeks from now).

Thank you <3

It's probably the luck of the draw, but I can't help feeling like I do. Before I read this article, I hadn't really thought about the fact this one was "a surprise".

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter - but so glad it seems to have been corrected!

Thanks. I know in my mind I didn't do anything wrong, but it's so hard not to blame yourself for what troubles your child.

I'll be a cautionary tale. My first two kids were planned. The benefit of this was that I took prenantal vitamins well before I "needed" to and was super careful about my lifestyle around the time of conception.

If anything happens to her, we'll know who did it.
(HEAR THAT, RAGE BEAST!? This is now a matter of public knowledge!)

Ha, I scrolled when I saw the word "boday". LOVE this bitch.

Now I'm a bitch and an asshole - great counterpoints! I actually don't care who is "fat" or not. This was a conversation about whether being poor is the reason people are overweight and I disagree, having been poor. There is no special reason thin people are thin, they have no special advantage. It boils down to human…

You're an awesome feminist - going right for the "bitch" insult, eh? Truth is truth. Learn it.

Yikes, you might be projecting just a wee. My life is oddly smack in the middle of the two parties, so I can see both sides.

On the one hand, both women's lives have elements that make them feel like successes (I have a child and while simply reproducing is not a success per se, seeing her grow and learn under my…

Um, you live in NYC and write for Gawker media. You win.

Edited, because I'm just going to concede. I'm not fat or poor. Neither of those things happened for me because of elite privileges or magic, but there's no point to argue what I know to be true.

What? Did I have privileges like access to the internet and parents who taught me to cook those amazing two-step meals? No, I used my damn brain. I was on my own at 17 in 1997, so no internet gurus or parents. It's called having common sense and looking around the grocery store thinking, "what can I afford that is not…

PS, I have two kids and this is how we eat so it's not a hypothetical.

You're making a lot of excuses - excuses I refused to make for myself when I was poor.

Super cheap meal ideas that also require zero cookign ability:

I kind of feel you here. When I was poor, I was thinner because I could not afford much food. What I did eat, one might call "sacrifice" - like mixing a can of beans with a box of cooked pasta. VERY filling, super cheap, kind of boring and actually fast - it takes 8 minutes to boil pasta and open a can.

Her music was good when it was just music. Now she's got the Kanye complex, in that she thinks she's some kind of Jesus of not only the industry, but of culture as a whole. Slow down, honey, you're actually not Madonna.

No. The answer is no. I lived with my boyfriend at 17 under less-than-ideal circumstances. Once I left and went to college (paid for my yours truly) and moved on to a more normal life, I'm a little bitter my childhood wasn't protected more. You have your whole life to play house. Save that stuff for adulthood.

"Regret is a luxury afforded to people lucky enough to have choices."