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Don’t bother. Facebook is explicitly designed to keep you “engaged”, and the behavioral scientists and data nerds they hire in droves to manipulate your feed and to track your emotional responses have found that the best “engagement” is found in negative interactions. You don’t go back to a post where someone says

No-brainer, unfriend them. If you haven’t missed them in all of this time you haven’t been on fb, you’re not going to miss them now.

One fun thing about fb is that there are groups for everything, and they often have strict moderation rules.  I’m a member of “This cat is C H O N K Y”, “This cat is assembled incorrectly” and about a million horse groups.   One thing you must do is shut down FB’s ability to follow you off fb.  It’s complicated so you

OMG, coming here to say this.  It’s why I would never get fillers.  

THANK YOU! I couldn’t figure it out, but that’s exactly what she looks like. Which is really sad because, in spite of her garbage personality, she is very pretty.

I guess antifa is Italian for “whatever hits that serotonin sweet spot, baby!”

“...oh, see, this is why you were ‘former’ friends. I get it now.”

Unfriend. They’re lost. Maybe they’ll find their way back but they are no longer our problem in that specific regard (in many others they are a HUGE problem.)

Yeah, whenever I’ve connected with long-lost classmates, it’s always been:

That definitely is one of the worst side-effects of social media in general (especially Facebook). We all witness our friends and family gradually become consumed with politics and conspiracy theories to the point where it becomes exceptionally unhealthy for them. There were lots of people I once respected who

Either Unfriend or Unfollow (and only go back to see when you’ve had a glass of wine or need some humor). I have tried to post polite replies with fact checks to some of the bat shit crazy stuff I’ve seen but they are too far gone. It’s like offering a few squares of toilet paper to someone covered in explosive

Here is the reason not to, if you have the mental and emotional stamina to continue communicating with these people.

How you choose to use it is up to you. I’ve muted/blocked a ridiculous amount of people, because you can’t fix willful ignorance. I have found a bastion of sanity there. I’ve found a delightful left-leaning group of people, and it’s an oasis of comfort from the rest of the site. I now only use it in ways that are

I told my uncle 4 1/2 years ago that, if he was going push his Trump bs, not to speak to me.

Do not engage with them. It is futile. Just look for cute puppy or kitten pictures. 

Yes. It’s not worth it. It will affect your mental health and affect them none at all, except to put you on their hate list.

Yeah, it’s complete batshittery. My sister has been disappearing down a conspiracy hole for the past decade, and it’s so sad to watch. Whenever I talk to her, I try to steer the conversation away from the usual stuff to the more UFO-related matters, because at least that’s interesting to me, and it’s less likely to be

You can use it however you like, there are options to block seeing people’s posts without unfriending them if you want. I actually have a few lefty friends I do this with (though I am lefty) bc the posting is CONSTANT and annoying. I use FB like a yearbook I can click on. I sometimes wonder randomly, “whatever

I haven’t been on facebook since he was elected. I had been getting increasingly frustrated with the entire site up to that point, but I knew it was going to be a complete shit-show afterwards so I never went back. I don’t miss it at all. If you must use it, you should use every tool available to curate your feed and

She looks like The Carver from NipTuck.