They’re not silent online, or in communities where they think comments are safe. (I’m a woman who frequently got “friend-zoned” due to my appearance, so I got to hear allllll about other women from my guy friends.)
What I noticed is, yes, there are plenty of men who have a high threshold for embarrassment but it’s...…

I think it’s a few different things. As a guy who internalizes everything and gets so embarrassed that I’m still haunted by social miscues from years ago.

But anonymous sources told THR say they feared retaliation from Shaw for speaking out about their workplace conditions. “She uses this idea of being feminist and a progressive as camouflage,” one employee said.

Portman apologized for naming Jessica Simpson, which I think was the right thing to do. It’s personal because Portman made it personal. Not on purpose, of course, but she did use her as an example instead of speaking generally . 

Tumblr is like the last uncensored website where i can anonymously post my rantings and get lost in internet randomness which i have spent years cultivating on my feed...including lite bdsm pages and porn etc...now SEX IS BANNED and its gonna be fking dumb and im super mad. 

My ejaculation was violent. Before anybody could react it had already broken a beer bottle and threatened the bartender. When somebody tried to deescalate the situation, my ejaculation grabbed them by the throat and threw them onto the beer splattered floor. Later on my ejaculation was seen entering a convenient…

If they wait too long, the actress who played the older sister will be...what? 40 years old?

(Not meant to be ageist, but critical of the casting. Mrs. Bitch and I both thought she was the mother until the dialogue and plot corrected us.)

While I feel for the son because it’s no picnic being the child of two alcoholics, and while I’m generally judgy towards women who are the mistress and then resent the fact that the guy is a douche to them when they’re the wife......the way this reads to me is, “My father chose to take a job thousands of miles away…

We-hell. Long sorta-scientific version: Capitalism is how The Patriarchy sustains itself on a financial level. Exploiting women and allies further by turning equality into a hip design concept and selling them back their own ideas is just how The Patriarchy operates. Patriarchy gonna patriarch. Capitalism gonna…

I wear flats all of the time always because fuck that bad for my feet high heeled, nonsense shaped bullshit. And I’ve literally had women say to me “Man, I wish I could get away with wearing flats.” You can. It’s called just wear flats.

Nah, that’s like the people who say “I’m not good at” returning people’s calls, emails or texts. Bullshit. As long as you are talking about what you are or are not, you are not doing. You’re stalling with the shame show. Its moral masturbation

Great piece, Stassa. This phenomenon of not creating a scene ties into broader issues we have in our culture with the very idea of victims and victimhood.

My word, reading your article after reading the “Ask Jane” shitshow this morning is like night and day. Your advice is (as always) spot on, caring, and relevant. I enjoy every one of your articles immensely.

These are both worthy options, but I’m all in for Baba Yaga. Once we’re no longer lethal-sex desirable, we are all the crone. Our wisdom is our power. Our rejection of the patriarchy is the reason they fear us. We surround ourselves with our sisters because Fuck Dudes. We are mysterious and strong and don’t care what…

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YES dinosaur. Angels are wussy and boring; I’m trying to keep this interesting.

Do you think boys in prehistoric times loved trucks and the color blue? 🙄 Gender stereotypes are part of culture and little boys & girls learn what’s “appropriate” for their gender through socialization. It isn’t inherent.

I wonder if we will ever get to a time when boys are encouraged to embrace stereotypically “girl” traits/mannerisms, etc. For example, I’ve seen girls’ clothing with dinosaurs, but I’ve never seen any boys’ clothing with hearts, flowers, etc. You hear about programs to increase girls’ participation in math and…

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