yep, anythingsweetie just explained things in a way that made it click for me, and now i know i was embarrassingly wrong. gonna bookmark those links for future reference too.

I'd quit while you're ahead here. Read the pieces from Jesuiscocopop and I'd suggest anything by NinjaCate/BattyMamzelle as well.

Everyone is being pretty polite here and while I understand you feel attacked, I need you to understand something. It will help in every interaction you have in the future on kinja:

Many black women don't even identify as feminists because they experience, well, whatever the white woman version of mainsplaining is, from the feminist community.

Also a white girl from a cushy west coast suburb, and I'm here to say that, unfortunately, sometimes the wood chipper is part of the learning. I'm not excusing anyone's lack of courtesy, but sometimes people have built up a lot of justified anger over the racism they are living with, so when we encounter the wood…

From things I've read about him, he seemed to be battling whatever his demons were with great aplomb. Perhaps just a facade, but ugh.

Oh, fuck this. I'm guessing he was being bullied at his school and the adults couldn't be bothered to do anything to rein in the little shits, just like it was when I was a kid. The excuses were always, "oh, they need to work it out themselves," or "oh, honey, just ignore them, they're jealous," or other bullshit…

Hi. You're being an asshole.

This is just a big, glowing reminder that the worst demons are usually in your head. It's sad that he couldn't find help.

Pangwengs.

Honestly this just reminds me of how much many zoos keep these animals in habitats that they aren't comfortable with.

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What'd she order, Fish Filet?

I never knew how many people went their entire lives never having been told not to touch/otherwise distract service animals until I started raising service puppies in college. I've lost count of the number of times I've said no to people who asked to pet my dog, and who then went ahead and did it anyway. People have…

The lack of stretchmarks and cellulite was odd to me too. This dude comes across just a chubby chaser engineering his own porn.

SECRET ENGAGEMENT CLUB!

"Damn it, Meredith. Where are your panties?!"

I'm 25. The idea of me dating a 17 year old is just....eww. They're so YOUNG! It'd be like dating a really awkward, moody puppy. Even the most mature 17 year old is still going through significant development. Their brains, bodies, and emotions aren't as mature as mine. And thinking back to myself at 17? I would…

THIS. That entire clan is so privileged. Amber is unapologetically amazing when describing her past career, and although Amber has said some things I don't agree with, I think it's great how she owns her past. Being a stripper is nothing to be ashamed of.

She should make the letters as non-descriptive as possible.