Yes. All of this...all while purposefully and in a highly calculated fashion, conning people into believing she is black.

Here are my two cents as a Latina who looks white. *And yes, I realize that Mexican is technically white, but tell that to the Trump idiots who want to build a wall and think we are all a bunch of criminals. Anyhow, I present as white although do not attempt to pass as white. I am very upfront with my background.…

No, you were the one who was offensive. DH was quite right to call your remark a “conversation-killing pejorative.” It’s far too common in discussions of this type.

The “part of your brain that determines gender identity” could be just as much socialization as whatever brain differences we might observe between black and white people. We raise men and women very differently, starting when they’re in the womb, so it’s extremely hard to tell how much, if any, of these cognitive…

Thanks for this. I have nothing much to add, other than to say thank you and that we clearly share many of the same instincts, especially as concerns root beer.

Hi- I feel compelled to reply because I totally understand what you are saying and I have felt like this from day 1.

That’s the common argument, but the same can be said (and IS being said by many feminists) about the lived experiences of being a woman.

I’m looking into it all, thanks.

Ugh. If I ask a question and attempt to explore an issue I’m transphobic. Got it. You’re the only person in this thread to treat this conversation as an opportunity to label someone with a conversation killing pejorative for admitting they don’t have the answers. Well done.

Here’s the thing: a black woman is a woman - there is no way to ‘feel’ like a black woman or a white woman. You might identify with politics, dig the culture, but at the end of the day (on the inside) a black woman is no different from any other woman. Transgendered is feeling as if you were born inside the wrong…

My answer to that is because a person could come out either gender. My parents could have had a boy or a girl. I came out a girl, and I identify as female, but the exact same ingredients that made me could have made a boy. But my two white parents, both of whose parents and grandparents and great-grandparents (and so…

I think it’s absolutely ridiculous that the author thinks that financial help for an Ivy League education from your parents doesn’t require at least the modicum of respect of giving your parents an update on your life or responding to their texts. They're paying a ridiculous amount FOR YOU, so show them you care. Ugh.

But look, paying for college doesn’t mean your kid has to talk to you in a meaningful way.

I don’t know the situation but I think you are reading a lot into this. It sounds like a frustrated mom dealing with a major transition period in the relationship. The rest is just projection. Eta: and to add, young people also have to learn to have a relationship as an adult with their parents. It’s usually a mutual…

Yes lets have all news just be local. We dont need to know what is happening in other parts of the country.

Can we get the national media to stop reporting these? They do nothing for anyone, other than advertise the perpetrator. Being aware of the situation is only helpful for locals. Knowing about it nationally does not help prevent anything, and only serves to heighten fear, and drive advertising/viewership. In fact, I…

My god. It’s like you people don’t even care if straight guys are masturbating or not.

The same poster also berated another survivor who said she found consent play cathartic for not “seeing a therapist to reclaim your mind and your sexuality.” I don’t often read comments on Jez that genuinely shock and horrify me, but that did the trick.

Yeah, someone posted that comment in the grays (must...resist...urge to...respond! Actually, I think it was Red Guard: he’s been going on around making comments like that. There he is...down there...hello, Red Guard! I seeee you!).

Boy, I hope this post provokes a lot more commentary attacking rape survivors who enjoy BDSM as “bad” victims and gleefully appropriating Stoya’s rape to advance a position she profoundly disagrees with. Because we didn’t get enough of that on the first post.