why is everyone bad

Because it’s verboten or because those aren’t choices that you want to make for yourself? There’s a difference.

we landed on gentleman caller after he nixed luvah

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And that’s fine. You don’t have to understand feminism through that path. But he did. And that’s ok.

I think what he’s getting at is that the idea of his wife fucking other men forced him to confront where some of the ideals of women’s sexuality came from - control and dominance. Like, wait, is she a whore? No, she’s my wife and she has sexual desires of her own and her sexuality does not belong to me. Men have been…

Dude, I was talking about wearing literal pants. It’s not inherently more or less feminist to wear a dress even though it might be considered a “girl” item. Honestly, I’m surprised it was so unclear. I thought the context of the statement made it pretty clear, but oh well.

Who would like to pressure thegirlriots into anything regarding their relationship (aside from how they’ll be taxed according to marriage/non-marriage)?

I think mazzieD is talking literally about wearing pants vs wearing a dress or skirt, independent of any relationship context

I don’t think he says it “is feminism,” he says it helped him understand feminism. This is how he came to understand parts of the system. I don’t know why people are ragging on him.

Why would you? You, it sounds like, would not. But there are plenty of feminists who feel that sex can be many things - fun, pleasurable, deeply loving, bonding, affirming - and not all of them at once, with all people. I respect your feelings about your relationship, but I also feel a little like people imply…

They aren’t. Some people are just pissed of someone with a different lifestyle choice from them dared to also call themselves feminist, and they have to make sure we all know their choice is just as feminist eventhough no one doubted it to begin with. Feminism is about choice, not about fucking. Fuck one person, no…

I went to a club for that kind of thing before and I find out a common and strict rule is “girl on girl encouraged, guy on guy is banned.” It's complete bullshit. Especially when much older guys who you've never spoken to before tries to get you to make out with another girl your talking to in front of them. That's…

Feminism does itself no favors when it starts putting absolutes onto how people should “be”. Feminism, to me, is being able to choose who you want to be. A rigid career woman or a Amish lady with no electricity. If those are your choices, then feminism wins.

Yes. Like I can literally wear pants and wear a skirt. I can wear a hijab and be naked and both can be a feminist, as long as I am doing as my own empowered choice. To me, this article is feminist, because he and his wife were empowered to make a choice about their relationship. You and your partner were also…

Can’t both be expressions of feminism? I can wear pants and call it feminist, doesn’t mean wearing a dress isn’t feminist. It’s the empowerment to make choices for yourself, based on what you want, that makes it feminist. The fact that you get to make a choice to be monogamous is just as feminist as someone making a…

These really are all WTF territory, but that last one brought me joy. I’m still trying to figure out how the food blew out the door and they just decided oh well they’re not getting food...

(Editor’s Note: Bob must not have been doing the job for very long if he was mortified by that question, because servers and cooks say WAYYYYYYYY more fucked-up shit to each other pretty much every day)

Besides saving face, I think it’s perfectly reasonable for a restaurant to ban most or all outside food.

As one does.