You go first.

I think it gives a better sense of closure to that chapter of her life by the artistic expression. I think she should be afforded the chance to be selfish in this case: her life has changed. Let her be!

I see what you're saying. I just see this thread filled with comments indicating that a lot of the women who are "upset" and responding harshly or posting replies to women who are opening up about their dissatisfying sex lives, are highly influenced by internalized misogyny. I don't know where in the comments this…

I hate the "you're just bitter" thing as well. She's an asshole. And not even an original one.

Look, I know you've gotten plenty of people yelling at you, and I know you weren't trying to seem insensitive, but look, girl, I can orgasm at the drop of hat (seriously, PIV orgasm on the bottom, top, side, etc etc) but telling people to "free their mind" is just so fucking insensitive. I'm sure these people have…

Yes, you're right. She's talking about herself. In response to an article about people that have problems that she doesn't have. In a way that makes other people feel bad, by essentially saying that she can't imagine (empathize) and she's so glad she doesn't have that problem. This is the definition of self-absorbed…

Thanks for your comments. I think you have been very patient with OP and her obtuse defenders and explained, as best as anyone can, why her tone is inappropriate *in the context of this article* You fought a good fight but anyone still arguing with you at this point, I don't think is capable of being sensitive to…

There are no triggers or jealousy or cutting anyone down, just cold, hard consequences for someone who wasn't very thoughtful about how they chose to communicate their experience. Thank you for sharing yours in a way that does respect the broader factors in this discussion and for this audience.

I think there's a pretty big difference though, between not having tried something yet, and having tried it but feeling like you're "failing" somehow. You're looking forward to the great, orgasm-filled sex that you're going to have (and that's awesome - good for you!), but some women reading this have been having sex…

This isn't humblebragging. This is just bragging bragging. Do you not realize how obnoxious and rude you're being right now?

That's what I just said! I'm not going to feel bad for calling her out.

There are plenty of nice people on the internet. You just aren't one of them.

I just don't buy that interpretation. Unlike your rewording, there was nothing even remotely approaching an acknowledgment of the difficulties discussed in the article. Context is created by the words you choose to convey your intent, not what others project after the fact. You shouldn't have to have your words…

how does "i cant even imagine how much it would suck for things to not be as perfect for me as they are" constitute showing empathy?

The first response, I agree. The doubling down in later responses is what'll get you a sassing.

That's great, truly. But the way she shared her perspective also came at the expense of making a lot of other people feel terrible. I think there was a way to express the parts that were helpful to you while also being sensitive to the women experiencing the difficulties the article gets into.

well shit. maybe the article should have been "IS OLIVIANOPE HAPPY?! DOES SHE HAVE GOOD SEX? DOES SHE ORGASM ALL THE TIME?! WE SURE HOPE SO!"

Context is everyone's friend in life. Glad you're inspired—a lot of other folks are just going to feel judged.

yea, youre obnoxious.

Yeah, I'd love to see an article where a man stays in a relationship for 44 years and never has an orgasm durning sex. I'll start holding my breath now.