Ah, I had the “no, actually *she’s* the abuser” shit pulled on me as well - they think that their lies will be bought because “admitting” that a woman abused you is so humiliating and emasculating that it has to be true. My ex was lying (disgustingly) then, sooooo I’m going to call bullshit on the claim that Heard is…

Thank you, I’m so glad to have the whole saga behind me, even if I do have some permanent reminders.

I am *so* damned sorry you went through that!

It’s ridiculous, these people decide to believe that a woman must be a liar rather than that a man can be abusive just because to them, women hold less value.

Yup. He’s a bellend of the highest order, hence I keep my distance these days. I think he’s typical of the people who think men can do no wrong - all abuse survivors are somehow responsible for it in their eyes.

I always likened it to a race to the bottom for the guy. My life has 99% less drama in it now he’s gone (and that includes my *other* health issues), so I’m getting back on track nicely. I can’t see myself entertaining another boyfriend for a long time, if at all, though.

Thank you! Once I realised daddio’s a straight up narcissist with a strong streak of misogyny I was able to let go of how he was able to hurt me.

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I am so glad that these women not only clocked what happened, but also dealt with it in such a good way. It’s also probably given people a better idea of how to handle such situations if they see it happening.

Yeah, I think growing up with that shit probably left me open to abuse in adulthood. I keep my distance these days, I just managed 6 months no contact until harsh news reached him last week.

Thank you, he regularly comes out with vile things and then claims that people are over-sensitive or looking for problems when challenged over it.

I ended up stuck for this very reason, even the one friend who I was still in contact with came out with the line “you can stay at mine, but you have to get rid of [dog’s name]”. I will never “get rid” of my best friend (he’s my world), so I ended up sacrificing my safety. It’s probably a depressingly common…

The head injuries I sustained from my ex left me with epilepsy, yet my father still came out with “I don’t think we’ll ever know the truth, you’re probably both as guilty as each other” (I didn’t lay a finger on the psycho - in fact I froze. He’d flown into a rage because I asked him to leave after I came home from…

Yup. This whole scenario has bought back a lot of unpleasant memories for me, when others partake in gaslighting you it’s fucking harrowing. It’s like shouting in a void, or just as with the origin of the term, your apparent sanity gets stripped away as you protest the truth.

My word. Now that’s a guy I would bang seven ways ‘til Sunday, then flip him over and start on the other side.

Commoners had to make do with a cigar tube filled with angry wasps.

Ta!

I am *so* over people bleating about how my biological clock is going to somehow start ticking and turn me into a baby crazy breeding machine (especially when people add the additional pressure of “... and then you’ll realise you’ve left it too late to do anything about it”). Because of this I propose we have some…

I have iffy feelings about the time limit on abortion. I’ve always been pro-choice, so this shouldn’t be read as a “teh babieeez” whine, but these days I know two kids who survived being born at a length of gestation where they legally could have still been aborted (the mothers were even coached by their midwives to…

So, I gather that this man equates “manliness” with violence?