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I fucking hate that this sweet little cat is dragged out to events constantly. Fucking. Hate. It.

Don't believe her if you don't want to, but I'd argue that many people believe that having sex with someone is a pretty good way of getting to know them and deciding whether you'd be compatible.

This is pretty callous regardless of gender. If you know someone loves you and you aren't sure, it's probably not a good idea to sleep with them. Sex is a good way to get to know people in certain circumstances, but the cost/benefit under these particular circumstances might militate against being reckless with…

That made me out the biggest HA! last night. The entire relationship was for the cameras. You refused to see him in person TWICE. That was your chance to keep things private, asshole.

Sex is definitely a way of getting to know someone. But I think all people have a responsibility to be aware of how their actions affect other people's feelings. (No one's responsible for another person's feelings, of course, but I think it's disingenuous to completely disavow the relationship between your actions and…

Also, yes, sex is below the belt. Pretty much by definition.

Yes, exactly! I think it's worth bearing in mind that he started his statement with "Knowing how in love with you I was." If he had just said "if you weren't in love with me, I'm just not sure why, why you made love with me?" then yes, I'd say he was trying to embarrass her by saying she's a slut for having sex with…

That's fine, but it doesn't mean Nick was slut shaming her. He sounds pretty broken up and hurt.

Agreed. I also don't watch the show, but from what was written here, he is communicating that the reason he had sex with her was because he was under the impression, from things she had said and done, that there was an implied future to their relationship. It feels like a slippery slope to coercion, and I think this…

It's Jezebel. You have to throw in the "slut-shame" buzzword in order to get an article about "women" and "sex" published.

Yeah I need to also disclose I did not watch the show and am basing my opinion solely on what is contained in this post.

I agree with you. I have to be honest and admit I watched this entire season *I know, I am embarrassed*. I think Nick is a very sensitive and caring person. He truly opened up to her and thought that they were forming a real relationship with huge potential. I do not think he asked that question as a way of making her…

Yeah I honestly didn't read it that way either (full disclosure I have never watched the show, nor did I watch the reunion— this quote is my only point of reference). I would say the same thing to a guy if the situations were reversed.

"'First of all, I think that's kind of below the belt. That's something that should be private,' she said," on national television.

I don't think he was trying to slut shame her. I think he was asking why she would do that, knowing how he felt about her, because it would give him hope, or he felt lead on by that. He was clearly vulnerable to her and cared about her a lot. If the roles were reversed I know I wouldn't want to feel like a notch on…

"[Firth] has a briefly seen, occasionally mentioned fiancée named Olivia (Catherine McCormack), who is a fellow skeptic and an intellectual peer, meaning that she has no chance with him."

She initially told investigators that a stranger came into her bunk in the middle of the night, because she "didn't want to get him, a friend, in trouble" (a claim that, of course, was used to discredit her later).

I, like some of you, am a woman who has been raped. An ex boyfriend, some one who I trusted and was intimate with, one night decided that "yes" was he answer even though I said "no, stop don't". And the next day, I knew, *knew* like a fucking cosmic truth that I could talk to any cop or paper or friend and show…

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