Totally. The surest way never to be wounded by fallible human memory is to cut yourself off from all fallible humans. Go on, be a schizoid. Otherwise life is a mess of human weakness and struggle, and that’s called relationships. Get out of the bad ones but don’t think you’ll find some magical promised land…

Part of gaslighting is that the person gaslighting you tells you what you should think instead. Before successfully cutting off contact with a person who was gaslighting me, I started saying to him when he was telling me what I should think, “hmmmmm... that doesn’t resonate with me.” No matter how much he would insist…

The two methods recommended for dealing with a gaslighter (usually someone with narcissistic personality disorder) are going no contact and grey rocking. Going no contact is obvious and needs no explanation. When you can’t go no contact, grey rocking is an option if you can manage to do it. Since gaslighters feed on…

“You’re lying.”

This, oh. my. god. so much this. I am sick of people saying that people are dangerous “gaslighters” when it’s really just a matter of the fact they didn’t see things the same way. I saw someone told they had dodged a bullet because a guy they went on a date with was a “dangerous gaslighter” because he said they had a…

Or you tell them what I told my nephew when he was spouting Qanon shit:

Some of the most common gaslighting phrases include:

I wish people would go back to understanding that “gaslighting” is a specific phenomenon, and what 99% of what people describe online as gaslighting is a 1-2 combination of remembering things differently, and the other party lying to themselves to feel better about past them. I had a friend who regularly rewrote past…

buddy if it’s one thing i’ve learned about cocaine addicts over the years it’s that they don’t mind doing it alone in the house.

“I didn’t actually read your article that I’m complaining about”

Google has a far reach, but it can’t access archives that have not been digitized. 

Why is it confusing that different people will have different sleep preferences? 

What is confusing about it? I prefer sleeping alone but I don’t find it confusing if other people prefer sleeping with a partner. Different people like different things.

I agree that it is really comforting to sleep with a partner, and I’ve also been lucky that I haven’t had a person who snores, or at least snores at intervals that are short and quiet enough to not be heard through my ear plugs.

Literally from the source I cited just below written by a professor of architectural history at Northeastern University and author of multiple books about the history of American homes.   

I’ve lost two brothers now. One in an accident, and one to a chronic illness. A friend said to me that she didn’t know how I got out of bed in the morning and I told her, you just open your eyes, acknowledge a new day is here, and then put one foot in front of the other. That’s the best you can expect of yourself. But…

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

I do. I hope they all get theirs. I do and I have for a very long time now and will until I die. There are not two sets of very basic rules to live by, yet people choose to do whatever the fuck they want, and for that I cannot abide.

How? Maryville MO is the county seat of Nodaway County. 77% voter turnout last month, with Trump getting 70% of the vote.

My heart goes out to the 2 surviving sons. I hope they’re able to process all of this in time.