Might I suggest that the next time you go in should you encounter her, passive aggressively pepper her with a bunch of random questions.

Just view being ghosted as a POSITIVE. I’d give anything for this girl I’ve been talking to just to stop texting so I don’t continue to get my hopes up for no reason, but alas she still responds.

I haven’t dated for nearly 25 years, but it seems to me that today’s daters are much more rude, cutthroat, and utilitarian than they were in the 80s and 90s.

It’s the old blah blah love something woof woof set it free derka derka if it returns snooze fart twas meant to be. etc etc. Just remember, no human interaction is a waste, even if it may seem like it at the time.

I did the thanks but no thanks with a number of dates, more often than not it got me some really childish insults in return. One even came back a few months later with a racist slur, that was fun. I think it was cordial and understanding twice.

I feel that unless you did something pretty bad, being ghosted is the coward’s way out. It’s easy to block someone on a dating app or your phone. Be honest, be polite and be ready to block in case they don’t take it well.

I never had trouble saying ‘thanks but no thanks’ but that’s the decent thing to do. If he keeps pleading his case after that, then yes, ignore him. Then again, decency is a dying art...

Because often people react poorly to being told “I don’t think we should go on another date.” They want to know why, they want a chance to argue their case, to win you over. I think some people, especially women, learn that not returning calls and messages is as safe and clear a response as can be.

That and/or some women are too scared to chance it anymore and just start ghosting dudes because the chances they take rejection badly are too high.

She’s dating multiple people and someone else stood out.

In this world of disposable dating you just have to expect this sort of thing to happen from time to time. It didn’t work out, move on. No one in their right mind would ghost someone they are really into so just be glad you don’t have to waste more time and money on that person.

I’ve spoken with some dudes who were ghosted and it was readily clear why they were ghosted: they had dangerous levels of rage toward women. Sometimes ghosting is the only safe option.

Why would this even be a question? Things didn’t click for her apparently and rather than have the backbone to say so, she ghosted you. Why would you want to pursue anything after that? Move on!

Her: What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?

I would only send one text and then unfriend/block. Otherwise there’s the possibility of drunk booty calls from either party that would be awkward.  

Dang. I think they call that ‘lighting the path ahead by the burning of the bridges behind us!’

The last time I dated, I would have a few decent conversations with guys and then have zero attraction to them in person, or they would do something weird. Happens all the time. She just wasn’t attracted. It’s why my policy was always to meet them as soon as possible—a few messages back and forth, then two or three…

Whelp, better than this one.

I like how you ignore the old lady’s false claim to the cops that she was attacked for being white.

Fuck that racist bitch.