I’d dry her sweat into a powder and do lines of her all through the night.

Aw shit :( well I hope you come to a decision that works for you! If it’s any consolation, 22-25 were sort of like my teen existential crisis years all over again. It was a painful age. I’m only 27 now so take this with a grain of salt. But I definitely (mostly) recovered from my quarter life crisis and now only have…

That sounds like knife catching

I had a tearful conversation with my roommate last week about if I should consider freezing my eggs. I’m 24. So, what I am saying is, I am that friend and also I would like everything on this list, please. Except the plant because my cat will eat it.

And there’s also the thing where if you DON’T say something, if you laugh at the joke, you’re rewarded as someone who can hang, and you get told you’re one of the good ones, not like the other women, who are too sensitive and can’t handle things. The reward for which is that you get career advancement, and you get to…

Your comment reminded me of this little scene from Persepolis and you touch on what I think is the reality of the situation. Men will adjust what they find “sexy” according to whatever the social norms are. If women dress in hijabs and burkas, men will find elbows and knees sexy. If they dress in jeans, we jerk off to…

Very true. Also, many, MANY men specifically get turned on by seeing women in modest dress, women who appear devout, bookish, introverted, and get off on harassing them.

This is spot on. The thing about a lot of sexual harassment analysis is that it assumes harassment is always about some kind of arousal, and therefore the solution is to either cause women to avoid arousing men or to teach men to control their impulses around women.

It’s a shame most of us here are, I’m guessing, atheists and rationalists, seeing how much we’re willing to sacrifice potential happiness in order to do the right thing.

Another victimized group who must not be forgotten: the boys and (non consenting) young men who are also victims of sexual abuse by powerful men in the film industry (and also elsewhere). Here is a Daily Beast article about it:

Fuck off

So, whoever doesn’t come forward is weak? I get what you’re saying, but damn, there is no winning.

I’m glad that you experienced some modicum of justice, and I agree that generally we have strength in numbers and the more we report this behavior, the better, even if someone else’s saga with harassment doesn’t work out as well as yours did, because eventually we will hopefully reach some kind of critical mass. But I…

I don’t think that’s fair.

The term “moral obligation” is fucked. But I guess when you’re between a rock and a hard place the military mindset is “RUN HEADFIRST INTO THE ROCK OR YOU’RE A COWARD!” (eyeroll)

Congratulations. Your complaint accomplished something. I call that positive. Mine got me months of unemployment and being completely blacklisted in my previous field, and absolutely nothing happened to the people I reported. Nothing. Nada. I call that negative.

Wow, this that sucks. I’d like to share something with you. I used to work in a very large legal publishing company for a number of years. A new art director was hired after the previous director retired. The suspect behavior literally started 48 hours before her first day. After her final meeting of staff in the…

In what way is victims not speaking up “covering their own asses”?

So you speak up, get fired, get your story brushed under the rug, and absolutely nothing is accomplished except you’re out of a job and possibly blackballed, depending on your industry.

So you’ve seen the Twitter shit show too? Women are damned if we do and damned if we don’t.