Okay, I clearly need better friends, because they all mock me endlessly for this opinion. But I think they are both kind of ridiculous, but also hella fun, and they manage to pull it together and be there for eachother when they need to be, too.

Yeah, I'd love some more info, since I'm genuinely curious. I'm white, so this is certainly not my lived experience, but I know my BFF, who is male and Indian, is under incredible pressure to marry an Indian woman (and his mother and grandmother actually managed to break up his first serious relationship because the…

You guys, my secret shame is that I just really like Snooki and JWoww. There is no explanation for it, but I just really do.

On of my co-workers was like that. Another friend and I saw her in the hall and it was like she had become pregnant overnight. If you'd missed her announcement, you'd never have known until she was like 6.5 months along.

Honest question (also hopefully in before the storm): is the gender dynamic at play that women are expected to marry within their race (and therefore have children who are of the same race and culture as her family), while men are given a pass to date and marry other races? Can you expand a bit more on the gender…

Kinja: a web of mysteries.

Hmm, weird, it worked for me! I only see things from those folks like once ever week or two.

Ginger's Rules for Facebooking—only add/keep the following people:

You can! Only subscribe to "important updates" from those people. They won't disappear all together, but you won't know what they ate for lunch either.

I find it can be done, but unfortunately, you have to do the same thing to all of them. You can't keep your one awesome cousin on your normal friend list, and block everyone else. You have to block them all, or put them all on restricted view, or keep them all regular. Somehow, the others will find out the Awesome…

Of course you can call me Ginger! I think you're pretty great, too! Your comments on this article (in the face of a mind-boggling amount of assholery) have been thoughtful, compassionate, and brave. Thanks for sharing, and also for snarking at the asshats when necessary.

Dude. You are the one who hopped onto my thread to let me know that my feelings were wrong. A thread in which I literally said that I find that wording offensive, you joined in to tell me that I must just not be understanding it right and to use the exact wording I was talking about. I'll not apologize for taking…

Yes, it's part of the Weathering Hypothesis, a concept that is generally well accepted (in whole or in part) by public health professionals. The idea that what it takes to survive as a POC in the US more or less wears a person out over the course of their life, and it has negative health impacts for them and their…

You said I was reading too much into that statement, which is more or less the same thing as telling me that my feelings are wrong. I don't think I am.

So because I have been personally impacted by the kind of attitude Padalecki displayed, I should not express an opinion about it?

I can't even with you "he has the right to say it" people. Of course he has the right to say what he wants. Could you please pull a quote from anything I've written that suggests I think he should be censored? No. You can't, because I didn't say that. So while you were busy constructing straw man arguments, you…

Yes, of course you are right, and this is an important additional dimension to how we look at addiction.

Fine, I was a bit simplistic in my comment, but no, the DSM is not my entire argument. Ask any professional working in drug addiction/rehab/treatment, and they'll tell you it's a disease (in case you doubt me, the APA seems to think so to). It's not the same as Tourettes, and it would be stupid to argue that it is…

I also have an "organic" mental illness, and I do not share your opinion on this issue. Acknowledging the social, biological, and genetic roots of addiction in no way detracts from the legitimacy of my mental illness. Lots of people think I could just stop being depressed if I wanted to. If I tried hard enough. If…

Dude, what the actual fuck was the point of this comment? I don't think anyone is expecting you to drop everything and sit shiva for people you don't know. I'm not bothered that my sister's death (from addiction) didn't change your life. But this article is about a guy who went out of his way to call someone…