I got the impression Harlem was the new Brooklyn since it seems gentrification hit Harlem later than Brooklyn. There is still plenty of crime, homeless people, crack addicts walking around, even in Central Harlem. It's getting to be filled with big box stores but it's not that comparable to Brooklyn's gentrified…

I wrote a longer answer to her this morning but I decided not to send it because I was rushing off to work. Look, I get that. I said in my original response that I deleted because it was too nuanced for 3 am, that I understand why she wouldn't want to be a part of that club if it excludes her. She or he may feel…

I second HermoineStranger on this one, as someone who tries to put those issues front and center, I find a lot of feminists don't want to go there. Yes, it has improved a lot, but there is still a heavy focus on things that are all about white heterosexual middle class women's problems.

Yes, why leave the movement if it needs more diverse voices? People need to stand up to this not walk in the other direction.

That's sad to hear. But that has mostly been my experience. The few male friendships I've had I've encountered people who have treated me like I was getting in the way of their relationships with women simply by being friends with them. In high school I didn't have a boyfriend but that didn't stop people from…

Tootsie*..

Hmm. A lot has changed since Tootie but I don't think one of those things is necessarily that men go out of their way to speak to women who they find unattractive just to have a friendly conversation. In fact, at a broader level, I don't think men are likely to talk to women who aren't single of their mutual friends…

Oh, Dustie Hoffman, you're such a sweetheart. On more reason to he endears himself to me if there weren't enough.

This is one of my favorite videos of all time. Especially when she goes on her anti-Spanish tirade. Reminded me of my mom a tad.

Stilettos?? Really? You don't need to have a rockin bod to put whatever shoes you want on your footsies. You'll have to pry them from my cold, arthritic 40 something year old hands.

Most definitely a biggie. Not the same thing, but I just got a job, and had one of those annoying questions "What do YOU think your salary should be?" I told him confidently why I deserved this salary level and surprise surprise, he gave me what I asked for. Which really made me think I should have requested more. But…

I can see screwing up these two. I love Anna Camp to death so I know her anywhere but I mix up blonde actresses all the time. And blond actors. In the 90s I couldn't tell the difference between Kevin Costner, Michael Keaton, Dennis Quaid and even Sam O'Neill. I know, there are big differences but they were in the same…

I want to give that man a hug. Yeah, that's what I mean...

Wow. The overalls. And the sweater and the hat...and the man in the white pants. Thank you.

Pure white I can get behind because it's like a nice fluffy cloud.

My friend's wedding was low key except for the open bar because they made cocktails and had a range of wines and beers. Hey, priorities.

WOW.

I am one of these people who cannot resist lavish bedspreads, not that I pay a lot of money for them, but I love brocade and gold if its done right, no Donald Trump shit. I can't understand people who have plain navy blue bedspreads out of choice. It's depressing. You want a bed you want to jump onto the moment you…

There are both problems actually, you're right. There are clothes which do not make room for a butt and there are clothes that leave a ton of room back there. I have what I like to think of as a small to medium size butt, but my thighs and hips are kind of wide and I sometimes have a baggy ass and tight thigh…

I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment. Past 21 or 22, the tongue sticking out and the duck faces should stop. I didn't like it when I was that age but then again I was a cantankerous one for my late teens, earlier 20s.