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gerrymandersalamanderII
gerrymandersalamanderII

Cute haircut, and makeup, and well, everything. I must copy it all!

Yes! That's what I don't get. I felt 10X sexier as a senior in college. I was a scared little poodle in my freshman year. I can see how that would appeal to jackals though!

One thing I don't understand is "younger, cuter freshman" because what the fuck is the physical difference between a 18-19 and a 21-22 year old, REALLY? It's fucked up. As if the 22 year-olds all have terrible wrinkles and sagging faces after four years at college. You have basically the same metabolism, great skin,

I think there are superficial kinds of happiness and people should be allowed to indulge in them when they're young, as long as they don't hurt anyone. And the point isn't to say it's not dangerous, or that it's something to aspire to, just that the hand wringing shouldn't be focused on women. If people want to talk

I must have mistook happy for healthy. I don't really think anyone can be "happy" in the sense that chasing happiness tends to make people unhappy. There are short term and long term things that can fulfill you in my opinion, and I don't always knock the short term. If it's all about short term, then yeah, that will

You're already out of the gray so I guess my response won't affect anything. Um, it gets results, you say? As in they starve themselves for weeks or months or exercise like a maniac until they realize that kind of thing isn't sustainable and their bodies are exhausted and weak and then start eating again? Because

Apparently, she does eat nothing but kale. I'm sure your mom LOVES that you're tearing apart fat people, dude. I'm sure that she's thin because she wants you to compare her to all other women and judge them for not measuring up. Nope, actually she wouldn't because that's creepy and fucked up.

The point of the piece isn't to say it's healthy. Plenty of things are unhealthy, but we all have the right to do them. It just so happens women seem to appear to be judged more for their unhealthy behavior for stupid reasons. So either we can start judging men as we judge women or let women get with what men get away

No one can "win" without the opposite gendered peson losing. MRA rule number one.

I'm responding to RaccoonFighter but I don't want him out of the grey: Yes, that is TOTALLY what feminists are fighting for. To call you a dickbag.

Yup. I've spoken to men who write about pretty serious topics, topics that involve war, and when ask if they get threats, they usually say no. Not in the comment sections or through email. Which really amazed me. When I read comments on articles men have written on personal subjects like relationships there is

They may get it the same on occasion, but as often and always that bad? I don't see it very often, and I spend way too much time on comment sections, obviously.

I hear you. I always had a nagging feeling that my mantra of "I can do anything I want because I'm better than those women who failed" wasn't true before I took a women's studies course on women writers, and realized "Holy shit, I see it now." And sometimes I wish I could turn it off, because I've been made into the

I think the answer is that it's different for different people. There are all sorts of habits that aren't good for us, but kind of make life better if not done in excess. I like to drink, but if I lose control and it becomes something I need to do to fill a void like the other poster said, that's an issue. I don't

I don't dispute what Leathers was doing, it just bothers me when The New York Times piece for example, said all of these women were equal participants. She should know better, or the editor should have, because there is a Times article featuring the Ms. Cordova, a woman who merely supported his politics and received a

What about her?

I don't think it actually does have an effect now, really, or if it does it isn't much of one. I think the thing that undermines you most (that you can't control) in terms of being seen as a bimbo is being young and female no matter what your haircut is. It seems like long hair just reminds people of your age if

Oh, I didn't mean to knock short hair. I think the way Peggy styled it wasn't always the most flattering but I love short hairstyles and with long side bangs and layers, it can look gorgeous. I think Liz Taylor, Marilyn Monroe and Mia Farrow all looked very feminine with their short cuts.

I have long blondish hair with highlights! Oooh no. haha. It is an exaggerated femininity. And it you're right, the reality shows don't help to dispel the myth of the dumb blonde.

I've been thinking about getting shorter hair for a while and lately even more so, in part because I thought it looked more business-like. But that does seem to be an extension of the "feminine in the office is bad" idea. And of course that idea exists because women weren't supposed to be in the office to begin with.