Yes, it is weird how social conditioning works. Part of my decision had to do with remembering the famous case of Kitty Genovese and also my selfish desire to sleep...

I know. It's unfortunate. I almost did that the other day when this neighbor was shouting like a maniac, a coke-fueled manic to be exact, so I wondered if I wanted to be the one to deal with it or if someone closer had already. But I called the cops and used 311. Apparently it was taken care of...until the idiot…

I think there is a tendency for people to define how grown up people are by their acquisition of things. I'm thinking of that Girls episode with the doctor and his nice home. For example, I was talking about moving into an apartment and maybe using my old futon (which is actually a good sturdy futon, jus' sayin') and…

Yes, I think it's definitely like that. Great metaphor. When I am employed I don't go shopping much. Probably because I'm too busy working! But also because I'm not chasing the fantasy of avoiding the feeling of being poor, if that makes sense. When I get a new job I tend to spend money on what I've waited for, but…

I'm not criticizing whoever took pictures, whatever their motives were. There were multiple people there and IF nobody called the police I think that's kind of shitty. That said, I know domestic abuse is complicated and I don't expect anyone to endanger themselves to pull the victim away from the man in question.

Wow, that is a crazy situation. You're really brave for doing that. Most people would not have reacted that quickly.

I think the oil and fake tans are the most obvious no-nos. But hey, maybe that's just me...

Agreed. I don't know what the determines an aesthetic gay men are supposed to be into since there "bears" and skinny men and bulky men who are all supposed to be considered men gay men are interested in and they're nothing alike.

I hope people will stop piling on eventually because everyone has said something to me at this point, so I get it. Again. I'm talking about this one situation and I regret saying anyone should have "said" anything as in to the man choking her, but I DON'T regret saying someone should have done something, as in call…

PI'm extremely sorry about what happened to your brother. People are misunderstanding me. I'm not saying the person should get up and talk to the person and challenge them. I don't know what happened in this particular case, but when I said no one did anything, I was thinking of calling the police or asking the…

Okay, but I said no one said or did anything, which is intentionally vague. I didn't mean that I thought someone should go all Sylvester Stalone on the man. I thought that when the news source said no one did anything it meant no one called the police or stared at what was happening. It might be too much to even…

I didn't expect anyone to physically intervene, I just hoped somebody would have called the cops. I understand why people don't get up in someone's face to physically confront them.

I understand why there are moments people fear for themselves but I don't know why someone wouldn't at least say something to restaurant management or say something to him and leave, maybe call the police. I know it wouldn't stop him from doing it at home but when the public leaves it alone it makes it seem like it's…

That's a good point I didn't consider.

And apparently no one said or did anything. That is the most disgusting part.

I deal with it by going out for lunch. I just get the hell out. Though that kind of thing can happen when somebody gets food for everyone. If I eat one slice of pizza, I'm being dainty and I should eat more. If I eat two, I'm normal. Three and "Wow, girl, how do you eat so much and stay thin? Where does it all go?"

Ugh. As a woman who does her nails every week and sometimes coats them with a protective gloss, I know that shit takes a while. And good nail polish is expensive to boot. It's my obsession but I get why that is not a reasonable expectation for many women.

I wouldn't exactly call it a victory, because he just kind of shut down and got super annoyed, but I was talking to this guy who said, "You know, she was just one of those stupid pretty girls." And I asked how he knew she was stupid and he didn't really have an answer. I said that sometimes being pretty and being…

Yes. What is it about "pussy"? I hate it and don't know why. Maybe because it's all over porn-type stuff? And I think about 8th grade boys saying it?

Oops, I didn't see this reply or I wouldn't have mentioned Urban Decay.