The context is entirely different, so if you don't feel uncomfortable being complimented on having pale white skin it just isn't nearly the same thing. It's like some woman called out to a guy in the street and said "Nice shorts!" and winked at him and he said HE didn't feel uncomfortable, so why should a woman feel…

I just disagree that this is something that should be made palatable. If there were a word for someone who believed in equality between races, I don't adopting that term wouldn't be as much of an issue. I just think that fear of the word is proof of why the word is necessary. It tells us people are afraid of women…

Who dislikes Dana Brody? I may be remembering wrong but what exactly did she do that was half as bad as her husband's misdeeds? Everyone can understand why she screwed Mike both before and after he got back. And since he was having sex with Carrie, I'm not sure why her sexual indiscretions are relevant.

Agreed. If Pete was taken off the show, it might cut my enjoyment of the show by half. He has such perfect timing.

It's complicated to be sure but I think there has to be some middle ground between protecting young girls from thinking they only are their sexuality and their ability to attract boys and telling them it's okay to want sex or think about sex the way boys do without feeling ashamed about it. I can understand the…

I don't think it's fair to make the assumption:

They do have Chanel Iman and I believe one other woman of color. They have a lot of brunettes, which sort of makes me feel better since blonde has always been hailed as the ultimate sex goddess hair color it seems..then red right behind it. They are all of course, really thin but at least they have some muscle, and I…

My whole point is that women are flawed. And men are flawed. And women can be awesome and men can be awesome. Because we're all multi-dimensional people. So when you say that women are mysterious and frustrating that's because PEOPLE are mysterious and frustrating. PEOPLE are fucked up, not women in particular.

Before the Mona Lisa I do believe there were hella nude men portrayed in art, and sometimes favored over nude women. Nude women were not always considered the most beautiful human form and that men were inherently less aesthetically pleasing. Of course you're going to find women visually pleasing as a straight man,…

It's not being "torn apart." For the most part, it's still just as powerful and celebrated as it always was. It depends on what kind of feminism you believe in, but for me, I'd rather there be a better variety of material out there. It's not that straight men lusting over hot women bothers me, it's that it's the ONLY…

I'm sorry that nuance isn't your forte. The magazines take away any resemblance to real skin, narrow their waists, and RADICALLY change the models in a way that photographers taking photos for art galleries generally don't, because one group just sees that woman as a collection of tits and ass that come really close…

I should add that I don't necessarily agree with what's going on here, but I dislike the "Everyone who hates lad mags are prudes" argument as someone who is not a prude and grew up with artists who draw and photograph nude women.

That's generally my attitude as well, except that you have to realize that context matters. The reason why people would be upset about banning nude gay men is because the preferences of gay men (and women who may also like to see nude men) are often pushed aside because straight men are uncomfortable with it. The male…

Even though I wouldn't actually support this, your point really oversimplifies the issue. It's about a little girl walking into a store and looking at that, and having it reinforce so many other ideas about women being as valuable as they are fuckable. It's everywhere in a way that semi nude or nude men just isn't.…

I don't think the point is that it's the standard for one group, the point is that that there is frequently miscommunication between people during sex, and one person puts up with something they're not comfortable with, with makes the sex awkward and bad. Don't pretend bad sex on the west coast doesn't exist. I'm not…

I agree and disagree with what you're saying. In one sense, I don't think it's right to say all women enjoy this or that and if they enjoy that, they're fucked up or conditioned to like it, as some women really will get off on what is portrayed in mainstream porn. I won't judge them for it. HOWEVER. There are not only…

Leading to a rash of men who are SHOCKED that women aren't dripping wet after the 1.5 minutes of female-oriented pleasuring. —THIS. This is the worst. The gap is so great between what young men expect from women vs. what young men expect to do for women. Some men think oral is just a prelude, not something that is…

I'm in a weird position because I have been searching for explanations as to why Roth's female characters or descriptions of them are fucked up but I can't find any yet. I know that he is considered a misogynist and I read American Pastoral but it was a while ago when I was less developed as a reader and a writer, so…

I never saw Chastain in Zero Dark Thirty but I thought people said she had projected don't-fuck-with-me badassery. I object to these actresses more because as you said they're well known (and don't look like her), not because they're hot. I'm sure you didn't mean to say sexy or attractive women can't have super high…

I know people say looks shouldn't matter so much with the actress they choose but I'd like to see someone with a round face, blue eyes, who is round hipped like Hill. There aren't many spoon shaped actresses out there it seems.