They just celebrated 55 years of marriage! They also still fuck, as I found out when my mom started complaining that the pelvic pain she’s having after bladder reconstruction is keeping them from doing it as much as they’re used to. So, I’m hopeful I’ll eventually find someone I want to fuck into old age, too :-) I…

Thanks :-) Hearing from actual people who have done this is beneficial. I paid my own way through college, and was lucky enough to have a good school close enough so that I could commute, so I didn’t have this experience. My brother also graduated from the same college, so this is out of my wheelhouse.

My parents had one of those headboards with sliding drawers built in, and they always, without fail, had a tube of K-Y Jelly in it. It was clear that it was used frequently. Took me until about 10/11 to figure out what it was for. *shivers* * tries not to think about the implications*

Thanks! I’ve pretty much come to the conclusion that a once a week update will be okay :-) If he initiates a text, I’ll answer, barring any important news, and just let him figure it out. He’s just not an aggressive person, though, and I worry about that; always have. I guess he’ll have to learn!

I grew up in a very small house where I heard my parents having loud sex basically most nights, so I learned at an early age. My sister recently found some old Barbie clothes in my parents’ attic, and they were so cool. My mom has hung on to EVERYthing, so she probably has my tiny people as well.

As a 50+ something, may I say I had those. Mine had lots of lesbian sex, unlike my Francies and Kens, who banged on the regular in their convertible.

Little tiny people can.

Wow, you sure make a lot of assumptions. My kid is my first and foremost concern, and the reason we didn’t separate years ago. How do you know that I don’t have plans in place, or that this hasn’t been coming for years now, or that my spouse isn’t of similar mind? Why would you jump to some inane conclusion that I…

Wow, once a day? Ha, there are days around here where, between his schedule and mine, I feel like we don’t even talk to each other, and he still lives here! I can see how that would damage a relationship; I’ve never had that kind of relationship with my own parents, so I wouldn’t expect once a day from my son.…

Hah, maybe! I also adopt and raise abused and abandoned rescue dogs, so maybe I’ll expand my herd. They are cheaper, don’t talk back (mostly), and snuggle at night.

How nice for you that you had no accountability. Nothing in this life is free, and his father and I have the right to ask for grades. If you don’t agree with that, that’s your opinion. We’ll just have to disagree and let it go at that.

Oh, good lord! I would never! You must have been mortified, because yikes. Sorry that happened!

He just got home from work, and we’re watching the Panthers (his team) on RedZone! He’s too busy shoving Sun Chips in his face hole and pointing out players right now. And asking if we can have Chinese for dinner. Priorities, ya know? :-)

My husband went to med school on the Navy, and is a veteran, so I know how good they are for educational expenses! Good on you for going down that path; we are one of the few people we know who don’t have $250,000 of med school loans hanging over our heads because of that choice.

I haven’t thought about it in those terms, as far as the homesick thing. Interesting way to think of it, thanks.

Oh, I plan on taking care of myself, no doubt! I plan on separating from his father within the next year, so my life is about to change a great deal. I’m ready to make a new path for myself, and it’s rather exciting to think about, actually, as well as scary. I’ve got one hell of a year coming up!

By access, I meant knowledge of. I wasn’t clear about that. I’m aware that I won’t have physical access to his grades; I’m not stupid. But yes, if I’m footing the bill, why the hell wouldn’t I expect to see his finals? What the hell kind of entitled person expects to have their life bankrolled without some…

Thanks :-) He’s a good son, so I’m hoping he won’t change that part of himself. We’re having a bit of a struggle right now with him not keeping the me up to date on where he is after school, and I worry, because I’m a mom! Also, I don’t like having to call him and find out where he is because dinner is almost…

Thanks :-) He’s a great student, but also super social, so it will be interesting to see how he balances everything. Wherever he ends up, and the schools he’s applying to are out-of-state, it will be too far for me to just show up, so he will have to learn to manage his life on his own for the most part. It will be an…

Thanks for the advice; that’s my general plan. It’s just a little harder than I thought it would be! It’s funny; the past few years, I’ve been pushing his sense of independence, because I want my own badly. However, now that it’s looming, it’s pretty scary. He’s a really great kid and a wonderful human being, so I…