Yeah, I wish there was a better threading system in place on Kinja. Oh well.

“Make it an A or we finish the date.”

Don’t like it, don’t read it.

Especially if his sandwich has a moist-maker.

It occurs to me that this professor may act that way toward all the students and she just never noticed. Yeah, the note on her exam was skeezy, but I’d vote for leaving out the part about the other classmate. That leaves wiggle room to say “But I told him I liked his shirt and haircut just last week! See? You’re…

... and then tell us how the most awkward first date in history went.

Great advice. A calm, mature discussion will minimize the risk of her being hurt academically later on. An email is probably the best way so there’s written records, but “Glad we’re on the same page” is brilliant.

Part of the issue might be she’s feeling like the only one getting this attention. This could be because A) She’s not very observant and doesn’t notice how the teacher interacts with other students and how similar it is to how he interacts with her or B) She’s the only one getting this attention.

She did end up majoring in economics, so I give her a pass.

I feel like “if you think he’s flirting, he’s flirting” should be re-written as “if you think he’s flirting, he may as well be.” The intent isn’t as important as the perception by the student in this case. Whether he’s flirting or not is irrelevant. If she feels uncomfortable the behavior needs to stop regardless of…

Your stories are horrifying, but your advice is great. Big actions can have big blowback.

THANK YOU for your post. This is excellent advice. Yes, if the guy has a history of getting away with this crap, use his gizzard for garters. If the guy is just overstepping a bit, put his feet back where they belong and let everyone move on with their life.

I know it’s not normal. I know the guy is a creep and his actions are inexcusable. The “ruin his career” stuff was directed at SimuLord suggesting she “wreck his shit” or whatever he said. The implication was to do as much damage as possible. I inferred that meant to damage his career. If I misread something I…

You read like you don’t reed gud.

Yikes. It was a joke.

I agree. The fact that she wrote to someone asking for advice means that she is in no way interested in the guy’s attention. Hopefully she can get things resolved without anything negative falling back on herself.

Is this the one:

Or at least on the internet.

I agree with both you and bp who replied to you. Public shaming should be a last resort. Professional intervention should be the first step because it minimizes the risk of negative repercussions.

I’ve said elsewhere I’m done explaining my situation to random people. I’ve done it dozens of times already and I just don’t feel like it anymore.