Small additional thought on number 5 - would you be up for cloth diapering? It has a number of advantages and a substantial cost (and environmental) savings, though an upfront investment. It’s certainly not everyone’s bag, but it can be a great money saver, so it’s worth some research.

Thirty-five or six years on the job and they transfer him from project management to help desk over his objections? That has to compound the effect. The real questions are, when does he superannuate and if he’s been there since the Carter Administration, why doesn’t he retire?

That juvenile behavior is so antisocial I’m pretty sure those guys are all sociopaths.

They're one and the same.