Hi there. . . . I can definitely see cases where someone identifying as white could be taken as saying they have greater authority. If that is ever the case, those people are terrible. It makes absolutely no sense that a white person in American could ever have greater authority when speaking about the experience of…

I can see a context where it's either, "Not to be racist BUT [insert something racist]." Or a context where it is self-congratulatory, like, "I am white, but I care about racism, isn't that special?" But, generally, if I were to enter into a conversation about racism, I would identify myself as a "white woman,"…

I can completely understand not equating the experience. That would be absolutely wrong. But why not mention that one is a white woman?

I don't feel like her point is that white women should be included in the original article. I think her point is that she would like to lend her voice and support to this conversation, even though she has radically different circumstances. I do not think it is fair to compare this person's response to a man whining…

Hi there! I'm glad to see you state your feelings in this way—because I have seen several of these kinds of conversation happen on this forum—and I am wondering if there is a way we can change the dynamic. Personally, the response that you are criticizing for being off-topic is similar to either 1) feelings I have…

Oh god, I didn't even see this part. It makes me want to cry.

This is disgusting. Even if one wanted to imply Shonda Rhimes is angry, there are a ton of ways to do so that do not require you to be 1) racist or 2) sexist or 3) both racist and sexist at the same freaking time.

Not me. . . . But I think a lot of people have a kind of "fairy tale" view of celebrities. . . .if you're rich, famous, and beautiful, you may be removed from the realm of real human experience for some people.

I totally agree with you re: flag desecration laws. Wish she would show a little cultural sensitivity though.

Yes, I am really not buying this as a normal human reaction to extreme emotional distress. What this woman did was vicious. Her behavior was premeditated and repeatedly engaged in. And it was sexually predatory. Being a sexual predator is not a normal human reaction to a stressful situation.

YES. Thank you. I also don't get the "she must have been really stressed" vibe I'm getting from some posts. I am glad that people do try to empathize with others. . . . .but this particular brand of empathy is really not flying in this case. I have known people who have been in incredibly fucked up…

I agree. For my part, I hate GOOP for its air of unaware entitlement/elitism. Or, rather, I guess hate it because Gwyneth Paltrow says things all the time that sound entitled—if she didn't, maybe I wouldn't have a problem with her website for rich people. If Angelina Jolie put up a comparable website, I doubt it…

This makes me so sad ("This," meaning the world and the situation, not you). As a white person, I will never know what it is like to grow up as a minority in a racist society. But I do care about racism. I hate it that a divide exists between black people and white people in our country. I hate it that racist…

The other commenter did not seem to be un-calm. . . .

"So what they'll convict at a higher rate or what?" No. So that they won't base conclusions on things, such as whether or not a person "behaved" like a victim. Though it's not a jury I'm thinking about in this case, it's a judge, which is perhaps even more depressing: http://www.salon.com/2014/03/06/jud… .

Even in the presence of physical evidence, victim blaming bullshit often wins. Like, "she had another man's semen in her vagina" or "she didn't act like a victim." And, even in the absence of alcohol, a victim's memory of what happened to him/her could certainly be affected. Women who were drunk when they were…

Blue Ivy AND her hair are absolutely adorable. And, from my experience with babies, if their hair is fine and frizzy, or just super curly, it would hurt them and tear their hair out if their parents were to overly comb it. It might also be irritating/painful to have tight braids or pony tails. I love it when…

Does these study make a distinction between a book that portrays safe, consensual, and happy BDSM vs. a book that portrays a more insidious kind of controlling relationship? That seems key. Where is Dan Savage when we need him???!?

I think it's neat! Not for everyone. . . . but sassy and unique. I agree with others that maybe an inch or two higher for the "neckline" would be better (can you call that a neckline?). Not because I am anti-cleavage, but just for proportion's sake. But, hell, if I had cleavage like that, I would be like, "Screw…

Yes. . . .and because of this I think a lot more attention should be dedicated to raising awareness that if someone is drunk and then raped—they were still raped. There is this insidious idea out there that if you were drunk, and not drugged, you were somehow less raped because you played a greater role in bring…