no, no, trust me, we all just need to live more life to truly appreciate how wonderful it is to get cheated on by someone you love

You just need to live more life.

hahahahah what IS THIS? Live more life so you can come to terms with your partner cheating on you, getting caught and then dictating the length of your emotions? HAHAH WHAT IS THISSSSS

I do think you’ve made valid points here and it’s important to acknowledge that you’ve made a new commitment to your marriage and family.

I feel for the both of you. I am also pretty sure that your husband just didn’t get over it and trust you after only eight months. Basically you drew a line in the sand and gave him notice that after eight months you expected him to put a lid on his feelings, because according to your timetable the event was over. In…

I never understood treating cheating like a mistake. You don’t accidentally fall into someones bed or back seat, its a choice, you consent to cheat. Choosing to be open to communication and therapy AFTER being caught cheating instead of being open to communication and therapy BEFORE cheating seems like the more adult…

I’m sorry, fuck that ultimatum by the cheater, especially if they got caught.

It’s disconcertingly breezy.

How does her hard work after getting caught cheating make cheating instead of open dialogue the more adult option? How does the concept of relationships for others(even when they read as fantasy) come into play when talking about how stupidly insane it is to say that cheating saved ones marriage instead of dialogue?
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Hey, working hard to repair a relationship you broke is an admirable thing to do. It’s the “get over it” ultimatum that’s sticking in a lot of craws.

“Conveniently”? Tell you what, you may just assume I’m a big open book in all manner of things for the purpose of this discussion.

“Cheating” is “What you wouldn’t want to catch your partner doing, either”. There are limits, of course.

His skeletons in no way have an effect on the cheating of the OP. Given the info the OP has written about her situation, his reaction is pretty ok.

What you said in combination with the knowledge that people don’t change (as a generality, of course) make it hard for me to feel good about OP’s story here. It reads like the husband’s anger was as big of an issue as her cheating. Oh well, not my life.

Can you imagine if he cheated and then told her “shut up about your feels or else?” Yeah, but no.

I guess I see a lot of similarity between non-monogamy and atheism. Specifically, both are things I believe in, but the people who advocate for them are so snobbily dismissive of others’ choices that I sometimes find myself wishing I didn’t.

It comes across like you think he only had a right to be angry if he left you. A betrayed spouse doesn’t lose the right to be angry just because he want to stay married.

“I couldn’t live in fear of making him mad all the time. Thankfully, he chose to stay married.”

At the end of the day, “cheating” or “not cheating” isn’t what’s important. If you’ve done something -anything- to seriously hurt your partner and betray his/her trust, that’s a problem. If your partner thinks sexting is as big of a deal as having sex, it doesn’t matter what you think or what some Internet commenter…

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