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Jul 1
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They were. I work in the arts, so we’re not sure what things will be like this year. COVID is a bitch.

I won’t be buying any Friesians, that’s for sure.

Jun 30
18

Do you remember when she got married the time before? I do. I remember standing in a Meijer (grocery/misc. similar to Walmart) just before getting into the checkout, and calculating my bill. I was going to be $7 over budget, and was trying to decide whether to put back a six-pack of underwear I needed or a block of Read more

Jun 30
35

I saw someone retweet her with the caption, “I can’t afford healthcare.”

I felt that.

Jun 24
1

I’m afraid there aren’t many obstacles, except my own obstinate desire to eat/do what I want to eat/do and have the result magically end up being different.

Jun 24
1

Hah, I don’t even consider myself an introvert - that must be 1,000x harder! Read more

Jun 24
1

I don’t think I have ADHD, but I have dealt with anxiety long enough that I can imagine what it might feel like.

I’m glad you found something that works for you!

Jun 24
3

I don’t eat super well and I know I don’t eat super well. It’s a matter of wanting to follow through; I’d like to be smaller. I’d like to be healthier. But I just ... don’t want to change my behavior, when it comes down to it. There’s a strong indication it’s mostly mental/emotional, so right now I’m focused on Read more

Jun 24
1

The books would be helpful, if you don’t mind. Therapy isn’t really an option right now, for a variety of reasons.

COVID has messed up my gym routine, and my initial reaction was to eat ALL THE COOKIES, so I’ve recently undone my progress, too. I guess it happens.

Jun 24
2

“The wrong foods” bit is tricky because I live with someone who has very different dietary needs.

I’ll read up on the tryptophan-rich foods and see if that yields anything. Thanks.

Jun 24
1

That’s what I’ve been reading in the reviews. I also don’t want to pay for AI.

Jun 24
3

You don’t have to apologize - I didn’t know there was a difference between emotional eating and physical reaction eating, so it’s something useful to consider. Emotional eating as you describe it is not what I do, so that’s interesting info to have. Read more

Jun 24
3

I have kind of the opposite issue, I think. I’ve had issues with anxiety/depression most of my adult life, and think I’ve started to use food to kick-start serotonin when it feels like something yucky is coming on, or to self-soothe while I work through outsized reactions. (So I don’t just feel like shit ... forever Read more

Jun 22
1

The anesthesia part is all you need. His last moments of awareness will be with you, and that’s all he’d care about. He knows he’s loved, and he knows he’s been well-cared for. Anything after they fall asleep is just for the human brain.

If your cat is anything like our cat, it won’t matter that your husband can’t be Read more

Jun 22
3

Emmer’s advice about loving the hell out of him until the day you choose is really good, too. I didn’t mention that we had several months of slow decline with the dog, so that was part of our goodbye process. I just waited too long on the goodbye day because my husband wasn’t ready and I didn’t have the strength to Read more

Jun 22
23

Two cities ago, I had a cat that was clearly approaching the end, but who wasn’t there yet. I asked what you did, how I’d know, and our vet told me, “Pets aren’t like us. They want to live and be happy until it isn’t comfortable anymore.” He said it more eloquently and it felt more meaningful.

I’ve euthanized two pets Read more

Jun 21
5

You might also try wiping his paw pads and any bare belly skin off with a damp cloth when he comes in. That’s where dogs absorb most of their allergens, if they aren’t foodborne.

Jun 21
14

It can be an anxiety thing, sometimes, or a skin irritation thing. The original FluterDog licked herself raw a few times, I think because she was picking up on some of my mental health stuff and didn’t really know what to do about it. We were able to deter her a bit with bitter apple spray and chastising her when we Read more

Jun 21
11

I bought a WHOLE BUNCH OF SHRUBS for the back yard with no real plan, except that I was going to plant them today. (It was supposed to rain tonight and the rest of the week.)

It’s not gonna rain, I still have no plan, and we’re about to go dig a bunch of holes in 90 degree weather.

#NoRegrets

Jun 13
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I guess I don’t understand what you mean. My orchestra is planning to play, but I’m watching bigger, more resource heavy groups cancel their seasons. Read more