I mean, yeah, to be a single mother with just one child (whom she is close with) and to have that child actively missing during mother’s day? By their own choice? That’s shitty, and yes, a horror.

I have sympathy for any parent who has to go through the pain of thinking their child is missing and fearing the worst.

Totally see where you’re coming from (and thanks for sharing) but I still just don’t understand how she couldn’t both disappear and leave a message saying that she was safe and had disappeared of her own volition.

I don’t think any parent wants to go through what this mother did: weeks of worrying and thinking of worst case scenarios. And the mom released a statement saying that she just didn’t know how to handle finding out that her daughter was safe all along—she felt hurt and confused. The daughter put a considerable amount…

THISSSS. There are so many ways that she could have avoided a conversation about her plan but still notified people so that they weren’t going crazy trying to save her when it turns out she didn’t need saving.

Exactly.

They were real enough for her to carefully plan what she would do and how she would do it and real enough for her to save up over a period of time to make it possible. They were real enough that she was able to choose what commitments mattered to her (work for the money while skipping class because she did not intend…

I’m not sure how leaving a note saying “I am leaving of my own volition. I just want some space. I will contact you when I’m ready” would lead to her being found more quickly... It would have been an easy way to ease her mother’s pain and worrying.

I think some kind of notification that she would be disappearing for a while would be preferable to none.

I feel very sorry for her as well but she made some very calculated and sustained actions to make her disappearance possible. She could have also left behind a note notifying her mother that she was safe. Of course there is clear denial in the piece, but instead of having that be private or called out, it was…

Having been in a similar boat in college myself (and dealing with anxiety, etc.), I get how she felt. (Sidenote: at Columbia her financial aid would absolutely not be dependent on grades.) I don’t think she needed to consult her mom. But I don’t understand running away without leaving a note and I don’t think there is…

She could have left a note as she was leaving, no discussion required. Just a “hey, I’m not dead and I have not been kidnapped” would have sufficed.

Of course there is some mental health issue at play here. I think what people are taking issue with is the tone she takes in the piece, the complete inability to admit the pain she put her mother through, and the fact that she and those who published her are celebrating her selfish/irrational decisions as courageous…

Totally agree with most of this but.... no one is asking that she consult her mother, just that she leave some type of message saying that it was her choice to run away and that she is safe but wants to be alone.

Totally agree. However, I have a problem with the fact that she (and those who published this) are valorizing her selfish decision to disappear without letting her loved ones know that she was ok. Also, this young lady made a series of very calculated moves that she planned for quite some time to make her…

She still had weeks sick with worry thinking her only baby was being tortured by some sadist or had been murdered. And she also had a Mother’s Day with no call from her daughter. Putting someone through something that horrible is not “totally understandable.” It’s cruel and unnecessary. And from the piece she wrote,…

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Yikes I don’t like her commercials with Kia that are also advertising Oakland as a place for artistic white people to colonize :/.

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