Dude, we’re gonna have to disagree here. There are clueless men and clueless women, to be sure, in humanity. But given that men are still in many ways dominant in our culture (in entertainment, in the workforce, in government), their perspectives are much better represented than women’s, and women have to learn to pay…

The other option, if this keeps happening to you repeatedly, is that you’re not very good at anticipating how what you write will be read/interpreted by other people.

I mean, sure, all of this is true. But if it is, it sort of makes the entire discussion irrelevant in the first place, because essentially all it means is that people are people. I guess I’m just fundamentally freaked out by discussions of “attracting” people, because they hardly ever manage not to sound formulaic and…

The original post didn’t even actually say “only thing you need to do”—it said “best way.” As in “most basic,” “most important,” etc., but not “only thing.” The only universe in which I can see that being “dishonest” is one where you believe that women are, at their core, shallow and uninterested in the qualities they…

Seems like maybe a person who has those “opinions” might be someone that other people (e.g., women) would want to think twice about riding with. Given that Uber doesn’t give you the opportunity to fill out a detailed survey, giving them a low number of stars is pretty much all you’ve got.

A) Perhaps you are overestimating the amount of people who actually meet that baseline, rather than people who just think they meet it.

Perhaps the problem isn’t that women are exhausting or, like, doing it wrong by choice, but that you aren’t correct that there are “equal levels of expectations for men” that have the same kinds of consequences/ramifications as those we place on women. It’s not patronizing to think this sounds awful, but it’s pretty…

I think it might seem this way because we tend to see intelligence as someone’s dominant characteristic only if they also behave in certain ways. So we notice a particular breed of “hyperintelligent” person because they fit the stereotype, but there are plenty of other equally smart people who don’t, and their…

Wait, do you actually think that women don’t have as strong of preferences as men about looks? Women “talk around it” because we’re made to feel like we owe men sex/love/relationships/intimacy, so it’s seen as bitchy/uppity to be as open about “standards” as men get to be.

The catch is that these days, in actual reality, women are providing for themselves/their families, too. They may not get the messaging, but most women still have to do most of the work that is expected of men in order to survive. The other way around? Not so much.

What about this particular thread is “savage”? You’re the only person I’ve seen use a word like that.

LOL. If you think these comments are “nasty,” I can see why engaging in any part of the political process would be way too emotionally overwhelming for you.

I think most people who act this way really just want to make sure they get to be apathetic (aka, put in the least amount of effort possible) but don’t have to entertain the notion of feeling bad about it.

Ugh, YES. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ostensibly progressive people talk about not voting like it’s somehow “edgy.” In what universe is throwing up your hands and deciding you’re pretty much OK with the status quo progressive or noteworthy?

Every time on Jezebel, where you lurk to post exclusively sexist comments on articles about sexism. Not “every time,” like, in the world.

I get that it’s true that many people spend more time with their friends when they’re younger, but I don’t like that we treat it as an inevitability or a sign of maturity/adulthood.

Yup. It’s the same as the whole “that’s not a man/real man” people like to trot out when talking about someone who committed rape. Saying that anyone who does a terrible thing is somehow not a human being makes it easier for people to believe that there’s nothing troubling about the larger state of things.

This is why I laugh at the notion that the patriarchy only deprives men of the freedom to show emotion.

I think the argument is that what makes it a women’s equality thing is that they advertise plenty of things people might just as often “not want to think about in an enclosed space”, but that this one is somehow seen as different/extra gross/inappropriate.

You do know that literally nobody on this thread has disagreed with that particular point, yes? Just...literally everything else you have to say. But not that part, because duh.