Forgiveness is not owed, it’s earned. The concept of restorative justice implies that the transgressor has accepted they have erred, as you can see this gentleman does no believe that’s the case. If you want to make a habit of forgiving people who won’t even admit they’ve wronged you go right ahead , but don’t ask me…

What is the connection between a guy who was found not guilty beyond a reasonable doubt, and thus was never incarcerated, and the mass incarceration problem? His acquittal entitled him to not being incarcerated. It didn’t entitle him to anyone’s respect, to not have to answer questions, or to be free from criticism.…

How is Jezebel still writing posts on this story in such ambiguous terms? It seems no other case with such clear evidence (multiple witnesses, him inviting other attackers, intimidating her, not taking responsibility) would get anywhere near this type of reception. I get that we want to be supportive of a…

I’m kind of curious if “well I didn’t know I was doing something wrong” is actually a defense that holds up to legal scrutiny with other crimes. Like if I could say convincingly enough that I was too drunk to remember that I didn’t actually pay for $50 worth of stuff at the store, could I actually not be prosecuted…

Yes, because her husband buying a gun and shooting her, the children, and himself in the head were maybe, just maybe, her fault? You can fuck on off with that.

She was doing everything right. She was planning to leave him and had already acquired housing.

Punch yourself in the face, then shut up forever.

Oh, I dunno these nifty statistics state that about 75% of women who leave their abuser get murdered by said abuser. She could have saved those kids by remaining a punching bag though, right? Will that be your next attempt at blaming the victim?

A nineteen year old in Mukilteo broke up with his girlfriend, decided he was furious when she started dating someone else, ordered a goddamn assault rifle through the mail and had to spend two hours reading the instructions before using it to kill her, two other guys and wounding another.

Not fucking likely. Restraining orders are usually not even worth the paper they’re printed on.

Except not. Victims who get orders of protection from their abusers are actually more likely to be attacked again, and the reason for it is because they got the order of protection. The abuser sees it as a violation of their control and will simply ignore it to further victimize the person who got the order in order…

Sure, cause a man who breaks the law multiple times murdering his own children would be stopped by the magic piece of paper that is a restraining order. Good of you to blame her for his actions though. Violent men should always be shielded from personal responsibility, right?

We’d have the sentence “violated protective order” added into the story. She likely declined the order as she thought it would further aggravate the spouse.

We know that restraining orders and criminal charges (with bail) don’t do much to stop batterers from murdering their partners in retaliation for police involvement or, as seems to be in this case, for the woman leaving him. So to me it only makes sense that the deadly weapons be taken out of the equation. There’s no…

While I think this is a great idea it seems that this dude went out and bought a gun the very fucking next day. Something more comprehensive needs to happen. Something that comprehensive is a thing too far for the American people it seems. Or at least the loud, angry, and red-faced American people.

It will never happen, but when the police are called to a domestic dispute, they should remove any and all firearms from the house, every time, regardless of whether someone is arrested. You should have to apply to get them back, and have your spouse sign that application.

So a man with a history of “domestic disputes” severe enough to warrant the police having to attend was legally able to obtain a gun with which to kill his wife. That’s an odd interpretation of a well regulated militia.

For some reason I expected a love triangle to be part of the story and now I'm disappointed. This is like freshmen year roommate level of intrigue.

If someone locks me out I will lose my damn mind. Much less if it’s because you want to get laid. Not cool regardless of who does it.

So glad the judicial system seems much more concerned with not ruining the lives of rapist / athletes than with protecting victims of sexual assault./s