Great point! Not a psychologist either, but the sense I've gotten from my own dreams is that things are rarely so literal. If I have a dream that features my partner doing something horrible, it's not necessarily about her — she could just as easily be 'standing in' for someone else, or 'partners in general' or…

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I think this is a great demonstration of why it's so important to pressure governments to institutionalize this stuff — or as much of it as possible, at least (the health care, day care, and paid leave mentioned in the article being great starts!). If you can afford to outsource this stuff yourself, it's awesome, but…

Well said — I agree :)

Thanks :)

I definitely agree with you overall: Collectively, we have this damaging, self-perpetuating fear of men as child-molesters (and I'm saying this as a man), and for most of us, that fear isn't rooted in personal experience. For us, I think you're absolutely right that we need to work to overcome our biases and do what…

Just wanted to say that as a guy who worked in childcare in his youth but shied away from it later because of the stigma, and has made a few comments here about the importance of breaking that stigma down, I fully get that that may be an impossible task for — and something we shouldn't expect from — people who have…

Old thread, I know, but I figured it's never too late for migraine-mitigating tips(?).

It sounds almost exactly like something Seatosky said a day or two ago, in the hotdogs/hallways article I think... but I can usually at least understand the logic behind his statements (even if I disagree with them, or how he chooses to phrase them). This I just don't get — my takeaway from the article was that…

As far as I know, there's no pm'ing :(

Cool :)

You'd do well to think things through a little more before you start calling people dumbass and a moron.

Glad you shared your experiences :)

Glad you had a good experience with him :)

Another guy who stays clear of most children — love your description of the paranoia! You must have been writing your looong comment as I was writing mine (I didn't see it when I started writing)!

Your comment and this thread as a whole are frustrating and make me sad, but I don't find any of it surprising. I'd like to think that I'd be equally open to a male babysitter as a female one with my own kids, but since I don't have any, I can't really be sure. There's a good chance that even if I did hire one, I'd…

It's true. It also helps with controlling / delaying orgasm. Maybe teenage boys should be taught kegels in phys. ed. class (I know I wish I'd been!)? Many a teenage girl would be thankful, I'd imagine. :)

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Ha! I had a girlfriend who used to be angry with me for stuff that happened in her dreams, too! A minute after waking up, she'd know that I hadn't actually done anything wrong, but would still feel angry. Thankfully, the feeling would fade once we were out of bed / fully awake. It was actually kind of cute, but…

Interesting article, thank you :)