Great thread & comments — variance in desire can be such a fraught topic in hetero-gendered couples (specifying only b/c I don't know if it is or not in same-gender couples), as any perceived criticism or complaint can so easily be taken as attack on one's masculinity/femininity, and can be very wounding. Definitely…
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Just wanted to say that I was with you for the first half, but given the very good point you made there about body shaming sucking for everyone, I found your phrasing in the second half a little hard to take (no pun intended) — and more than a little odd.
Unplanned sex & quickies are definitely easier with and for self-lubers. Lots of women need something extra, though. And it's not so much a matter of it being worked out ahead of time ("In the future, may I spit on your vagina in order to provide supplementary lubrication, in the event that the KY's at home?" ...…
It isn't anyone's fault. In the game they're playing, hotdogs and hallways aren't compatible. They should find some different play-mates, or play some different games.
Yeah, I got a bit emotional there, defending my ex against my own cold analysis, and over-stated my case a bit as a result. It didn't make zero difference, but I was in love, y'know? And it wasn't such a mismatch that PIV wasn't still great (and the sex overall beyond great — that part I wasn't overstating).*
Aside from a couple questionable uses of 'whore' and 'whorish', I was with you right up 'til the very end. And then, instead of concluding that body-shaming is bad, you decide it's just that it's the men that should be body-shamed.
It's not something I'd generally do with a stranger (because it totally could be taken as disrespectful, or even just gross), but spit makes a pretty good lube, and what if you're out somewhere (or just not in the bedroom) and forgot to pack the store-bought stuff?
So basically, save your old whore jokes for ACTUAL old whores, OK?
Oh absolutely — I didn't mean to suggest that there are tonnes of tiny vaginas running around, any more than there are tonnes of porn-star dicks bouncing around. I wasn't so much disagreeing with your post as adding a little "*" to it to say there is some variance... and then off on a tangent about why I think people…
There are shorter, tighter vaginas, just like there are longer, thicker penises — it's not just a matter of 'warmed-up' vs. 'not-warmed-up'. That said, I think you're right that it's unreasonably become something to brag about (or in the reverse case, to feel anxious about) for some hetero* women, the same way having…
Very cute. Now more goats please!
I'm glad people are claiming it, and I use it now with only respect & love, but if I stop to think about it I guess I can understand the older generation's view: I'm embarrassed to admit I do remember 'Newfie jokes' making the rounds when I was a kid. We didn't really know what it meant: just that some group of…
His voice, in those lower registers.... it did things to me... things I don't quite understand..
She does seem like a bit of a drama queen, but... She is an actor, right? Is this really so out there, when put in that context? I don't know.
Ah - that's not depression talking, then, that's assholery! :) And totally not on you. Unfortunately, sometimes family members suck, and are shitty people — depressed or not.
Lots of good answers already, but thought I'd chime in to say: HUMOUR!
You're obviously lying: St. Johns is in New Brunswick!
I don't know what it's like in Wisconsin, but where I live, when the first thaw comes and the snow melts away, you find all sorts of stuff scattered around: coins, dog shit, lonely mittens, toques, dog shit, garbage, dog shit, keys, dog shit. It's like the world's worst Easter Egg Hunt.
I know! I'm always shocked, come spring, how many gorgeous people there are in my city! I'm used to thinking of us all as friendly, woolly, down-filled spheres.