I’ve been an attorney since 2004, I’m in California, and i keep looking for where I can work in this field. Cuz I’m done now. But CA doesn’t really need me. So I throw money at things. But my dream is to win the lotto so I can create the Abortion Underground Railroad. Because that is where we are at. While we fight at…

vehicular manslaughter is a lesser charge than vehicular homicide because of intent

Jon Snow running up to the Night King...

Thank you for this! Intention ain’t shit. If I threw a rock and accidentally hit someone in the head, lack of intention doesn’t take away the concussion. 

Most men of his generation “apologize” like this because they don’t get it.

We didn't just watch her have a mental breakdown, we sat and had a good laugh at it. Not humanity's finest moment, imo.

I’ve been in therapy for the past two months and I leave every session feeling lighter and better and heard and understood. We talk about heavy things but even when I was in a very dark place I left feeling much better. Light/valued. I don’t have a lot of experience with therapy but I do know how I feel after each…

Nothing like a good flowchart or diagram! I’m very visual, I like plotting things out like that. I hope you’ll find a way that works for you!

Yes, you get to walk away from a therapist. While one year is indeed not that long, in my view, it is long enough to see change for the better. Your description of being ripped open emotionally only to end up “being left to stew in it” sounds ... not good. That you are self-harming again while being under her care, I…

I walked away from a therapist when I told her I felt so awful about my weight/body that I was making myself throw up, and she said, “Well you _could_ stand to lose some weight, let’s come up with other strategies for you to try, how about a diet?” I bet she wouldn’t’ve said it if I was skinny, but I’m curvy and…

I remember that!  So much of law school felt like it was a cult that I didn't want to get too far into.  Like I want to be there and participate but at a certain point I want to leave the compound and just take a break.

Find a new therapist but transition in a way that doesn’t leave you susceptible to not having any care. Also going through a divorce and struggle with depression/ideation. Not sure if you are able to do any short term out patient programs but they have ones that help get you through a crisis (and can be only 5 days or…

I don’t have any advice on the therapist but 1L was one of the toughest years of my life if you only look at the school part. Add in the anxiety disorder that hadn’t been diagnosed yet and it was a real party. What I’m trying to say is 1L would suck even if a person had a totally tranquil life and I’m here from the…

therapy is bringing up So Much Garbage, and then I’m just left stewing in it

You are taking good care of yourself. That sort of self-love is priceless, and people will sense it about you, and find you strong and wise (even when you are half-assing it through a bad day).

I loathe journaling too, and I get frustrated by meditation.

I’m seeing a psychodynamic person for the same reasons you described. CBT sucks for exploring deep-rooted issues but is great for symptom management. CBT always worked best for me in the immediate crisis but had no long-term effects. That being said, I get that frustration with the psychodynamic person and I’ve…

I know allll about those deflection tricks we do to protect ourselves from painful discovery. I also know about the plateau: the horrible inbetween where you can’t go back, but it’s so hard to say the thing you never gave words to before to another living human being. You can do this. It WILL be worth it. You are…

Hi there. I’ve been in a similar boat as of late (resurgence of thoughts of self-harming/depression) and have been in therapy for over 2 years now. In therapy, a lot of shit gets stirred up and I can leave feeling more distressed at times. I’m at the point where most of my work happens outside of therapy and I just…

It sounds like you are doing the right things, like increasing your visits, and telling your therapist about your concerns and your increasing self-harm as you work through this. You are able to identify your physical self-harm is wrong, and you have the right to tell your therapist you are not okay, and ask how far…