I can't say that I have had this exact same experience, I just started therapy, long over due three weeks ago and for one of those weeks. my therapist was out of office. It sounds like you have tried to speak to your therapist and she just plied you with platitudes? If so, I would definitely walk away. You feel like…

This is an amazing resource and you are incredible!  Thank you, I would like to pass this on to some friends who need it.  <3

I'm so pleased for you, and I'm taking a little encouragement for myself, for when the time comes. Thank you so much for sharing. 

That is honestly really healthy for both of you, and not something that everybody accomplishes this quickly. I, a random internet stranger, am very proud of you. Good job!

Good on ya!

27 years for me. I guess I will count my blessings. I have always worked out, so for guys my age, I am really really fit, and have always been considered conventionally good looking.

It kind of depends on what degree of discomfort you’re open to. I have little patience for therapists these days who just sort of echo back to me what I’ve said to them in a comforting way, a sort of CBT-lite. I think that for therapy to truly change how I feel, my therapist has to actively challenge things I say and…

Definitely discuss this with your therapist. How he handles this will be a good indicator whether or not he’s the right one for you.

It takes time. The first therapist I saw waaaaay back when took me over a year to even begin to open up. Its so hard when there are old trust issues.

If there's one thing I know it's that I don't have all the answers. I do hope you're able to find some peace however you can.

Thank you for such a considerate and thoughtful response.

I totally understand, I didn’t want pity either. I don’t want to get too specific, but my situation involved years of intimate partner violence. With a couple of episodes that were so extreme my very professional therapist exclaimed, "Jesus Christ!" after I described one of them. I was seeing him for EMDR  therapy so…

If he’s a good therapist this is nothing he can’t deal with. He’s here for you and your needs.

But in my case (can’t speak for OP) at least, I don’t want pity either. It’s just a mess where I have to fix the problem to even try to solve it.

I have felt this exactly. Everyone’s advice with mental health stuff is therapy, yet I didn’t like it at all. I get to my college’s mental health services, am forced to answer a super long, invasive questionnaire just to see a serious faced stranger who wants me to talk when opening up is one of the major issues I…

It could also be that your subconscious is reacting to something about him because that trait is reminding you of something painful in your past. On a basic level, it can be as simple as gender; if you have had a pattern in your life of men who have damaged your trust, it could be a little harder to build trust with a…

He’s used to stuckness. Every patient gets stuck sometimes.

I love/hate therapy! It’s a wonderfully intimate relationship. The advice I’d offer is similar to everyone else. I read somewhere that it’s a good combo if you leave feeling hopeful. That said, I definitely hit walls in my therapy and felt sometimes like we were going in circles. Trust is tough, very hard to build. I…

Have you discussed this with him? I have a hard time trusting people too. I took me about 9 months until I was able to tell my therapist the details of my trauma. I was terrified he’d blame and judge me. I couldn’t even look at him. But his response was so kind and gentle it was like an enormous weight was lifted from…

You might want to raise this issue with the therapist; he’s probably aware that you are being less than open. He might have suggestions.