I just graduated this past spring and have still law school final exam nightmares. Torts was interesting but civ pro was horrific. 

Te-hehehe. This made me happy, thank you! Good luck with your studies. With such tremendous support, things can only go smoothly.

You have a good helper!

Exams are terrible. I’ve been out of law school for a while now (I work in a law-adjacent field) and I still recall the misery of the whole process.

Oh fun, I am also currently outlining! It’s a rough time of year for all law students.

The giant Post-it is your own idea, and I think it’s pretty great. I also second the idea about looking for sensory activities (swim, spa, concert, exercise, trying new pastries and new foods, visiting art museums) to remind yourself that the world is bigger than what one person can bring to us. And talking to the new…

I am so happy you have a beautiful new kitty to make new memories with.

Good for you! I also find watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer cathartic.

Talk to the kitty. Tell her about your day, your crappy ex, how pretty she is. Whatever. You are done with him. Make new habits. Cook new foods.

I haven’t been in your situation but I have had breakups – DON’T CALL HIM. Remember what you’re going through is a normal, temporary withdrawal and you can ride it out with much less damage than calling him would cause. Watch therapeutic breakup movies/shows, take up a new hobby, schedule plans with friends. Write in…

I’m also post husband. I had the advantage (?) of discovering he’d been having an affair in a fairly traumatic way, and that really killed any feelings that hadn’t already died in spending months dealing with his drunk driving and shitty behaviour- which turned out to be manifestations of his guilt around the affair.

 A Little Bit Stronger by Sara Evans was my divorce theme song. I can finally listen to it without crying and feeling that pain again.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I understand the stress of law school and how much you feel like you need to rely on every bit of help you can get, and even though I was the one who eventually divorced my husband, it still felt like a death, and I went through a grieving. My ex threatened many times to…

Chiming in to say, he abandoned both you and the cat. Keep the cat.  Fuck him. He’s not going to take you to court, and if he does, take him for all he’s worth. He’s required to pay you financial support, especially after all this time together. This is now a business transaction, his feelings no longer matter, and…

Totally relate to this. My ex and I split two years ago and still have times where I fluctuate between missing him horribly and hating him more. Mostly I’m angry at myself for allowing someone no longer in my life to dictate how I feel.

Sorry to hear you were cruelly tricked and abandoned and yet glad for you that the band-aid is off? Good riddance to old rubbish as they say. It’s very difficult moving on from deep attachments, but I’m hopeful for you that clarity and better relationships are in your future. (Especially first and foremost, a kick-ass…

Confession: it was my first time watching it. So awesome! How did I wait so long!

You’ve been looking after her for 5 months and you know a bunch of lawyers. If keeping the cat makes you happy, go for it, but I completely understand wanting to avoid drama.

He won’t take you to court. That’s the kind of thing assholes like that say to intimidate you. I say hang onto her; you’ve got a terrific case that he abandoned her with you.

What???? What kind of sadistic evil crap IS that???? I am furious on your behalf!