He does seem genuinely happy, though. He wanted children, and he found someone who also really wanted a family—she’s very nurturing and is a great mom. A few of his friends did mention how quickly it seemed to happen — one day, they were introduced to her as his girlfriend, and the next time they saw her after that was…

Hey LA, I remember you! You gave me amazing advice about being on dating apps at this age and what to do about the guy I met. You helped me a lot — I decided to just roll with it and have fun, and I’m really glad I did because I’m having an amazing time! The age gap between us isn’t bothering me anymore, and I notice…

I also wanted to add that I am a reserved person, as well. It was REALLY hard for me to message men first when I first starting using the app, but I’m not going to lie, it got easier and easier with each man that I reached out to over time. By the time I had to message the current younger guy, I was actually quite…

You give me too much credit, I definitely was NOT brave about it, lol. When I accepted that I was ready to meet a man, I first had to consult the committee: I came here to SNS to ask other Jezzies about their experience with the app and for tips/advice. I also had to think long and hard about doing it before I created…

Through everyone’s comments, I came to the realization that he most likely is what-iffing. I completely agree that he sees me off having fun with someone else, and he probably feels left out, which I think is OK and totally normal. Other Jezzies also helped me see that my friend never treated other men I dated poorly…

Thank you!! I’m just basking in being happy and trying to live it up, and my friend’s reaction was such a wet blanket. It’s not like I brought the younger guy over said “we’re moving into together” or something crazy like that. I agree, all I said was “I met someone, we have a LOT in common and I’m really stoked!” I…

Thank you MacBook!

Thank you. I could see him being “possessive” without even knowing it. I genuinely don’t think that he wants to me be unhappy.

This totally makes sense. I also recently got a new job that has some great fringe benefits and now I have to travel a lot (and boyfriends/spouses are usually allowed to go on these work trips) so it IS possible that he’s what-iffing.

Hey fellow Jezzies! I have a quick update about my Bumble misadventures, and also need to vent about something.

You are my hero! In the short time I’ve been using the apps, I totally see what you mean. I don’t swipe right often, but when I do, it’s purely lustful and there’s definitely a type that I have. I’m also convinced that men on Bumble do not read womens’ profiles — it’s all about how we look — and the best looking guys…

Thank you. As for my friend, it would have been nice to get a simple “Get it gurrrrrl!” or something like that when I showed her his photo. But I’m very thankful that my other good friend (the one who I told my plan to and FaceTimed when I arrived in the guy’s city) was extremely supportive and just wanted me to have…

Thank you. And I know that you’re right. I definitely was love-bombed. I gently put the brakes on a few things he said during our first weekend together, mainly because I didn’t want to ruin the fantasy, for myself. I’d either just smile as a response or say “I don’t think that’s going to work.”

Thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment.

Hi Jezzies, missed you guys! I’m here because I have an update about my Bumble misadventures.

Yes! I love the shout-out to Alaskan Amber. 20 years ago when I was in college in the PNW, Alaskan was one of the first craft beers I experienced. It’s always on my must-drink list when I go back to visit, since I can’t seem to find it where I live currently.

Oh I’m there, and this resonates with me right now also even though I don’t have children. I’m 40 and currently dating a man who is 10 years younger than me (and probably too good looking for me), and he gets a lot of attention from women on his Instagram page as it’s a public account. They’re not throwing themselves…

I would totally visit a bar named Pumpkin Andy’s Wine Bar and Cat Palace. Glad to hear you’re doing better!!

I’m with you. I don’t visit Jezebel for the video content, and the community here in the comments section is one of the things that makes the site great. If I wanted to watch videos I’d go to another platform.

The Arby’s on Oahu are also in locations that aren’t worth writing home about. They don’t have one that’s seaside in Waikiki, which is what some people may imagine.
They have one near Pearl Harbor, and the others are in a big mall and a strip mall on the west side of the island — places that don’t look like Hawaii.