“We took somebody’s a man’s word for it..”

That’s it, exactly. It’s coming from a place of empathy rather than a place of demand.

It’s asking the women in your life, “What do you need?” instead of “What should I do?”

Indeed.

Fantastic article, thanks for linking!

For years I didn’t realize that what I regularly suffered were even migraines. I just called them “sinus headaches” to differentiate them from regular headaches because for me, that’s the general area the pain first presents, then it it migrates. As soon as it centers in one particular area and starts pulsing I know…

Am I the only one that’s actually somewhat shocked that we’re still seeing professional and personal ramifications actually happen as a result of these predatory behaviors? Part of me thought this would have ended with Weinstein and the rest of these men would be excused and basically societally forgiven, the way it’s…

Yup. Anyone who relies on that many silencing and distracting techniques in their statement has something to hide. The terrible thing is, I bet it’s worked for him before.

I think to me, it comes down to the fact that if they didn’t think her hair was appropriate for the picture, for whatever reason, they could have found a way to tie it back or keep it out of sight so that they’d get the look they were going for. Models and actresses get asked to dress a lot more strangely for photo…

Oh my god that’s adorable.

Oh crap, Death of a Salesman came afterward? Respect lost.

That’s what got me too, especially considering that clip of the 90's interview that was circulating not long ago where he explains this epiphany regarding his assumptions about women’s looks and his dismissiveness towards women who in his opinion “weren’t trying hard enough” after the Tootsie makeup team couldn’t…

The solution is what I’ve already mentioned more than once. Step up, even when it’s uncomfortable, and say “no, dude, not okay” when you see this. If every halfway decent man did this, the climate of acceptance would be a lot less permissive.

“For some it might be a choice, but for the majority of guys that behave like this, it’s literally who they are. Deep down it is their instinct to take advantage of people. It’s a flaw in their character that makes them behave like a wretch.”

Here. You’re explaining away these violations, and that’s what they are, by…

Reading your comments in this thread, I’m seeing nothing but “boys will be boys”. “Men will be men.” “They can’t help themselves, poor men.”

I got really excited over the Ms. Frizzle costume until I realized who was wearing it.

Heeellllllll no.

Me: *scrolling, scrolling* Okay, cute, yeah. Oh one more? Okay.

“I thought I was the only one.”

I was waiting for this post. <3