Thank you!

My username is Digit-Aria. Would love to maybe establish a "Kotaku/Dr. Nerdlove" community of kinksters.

I do believe that this is the first time I have ever seen an advice column, or any mainstream media source, give sound, realistic advice about entering the kink scene. While you need a lot more space to really do it justice, you managed to hit on all of the basics for entering this lifestyle without coming off as a…

This is part of why women seem to love assholes; it has nothing to do with "assholes get all the women" and everything to do with the fact that they know how to present themselves and they put themselves out there. They're making a point to flirt, to be engaging and - critically - making a move. That's part of why…

As a female divorcee, the "nice guy" thing is so right. I meet so many guys that are just too nice. To agreeable, most of them are missing the emotional connection. The attraction is there, but the mental attraction is not. And for me that is a huge issue. I'm far more understanding of a guys appearance, but not so…

This is part of why women seem to love assholes; it has nothing to do with "assholes get all the women" and everything to do with the fact that they know how to present themselves and they put themselves out there. They're making a point to flirt, to be engaging and - critically - making a move. That's part of why…

There is nothing less appealing to me than a guy who is wet noodle passive because he wants to be nice.

Yes.

I just treat women like other people and it seems to work pretty well.

If I'm understanding him right, he's trying to make it clear that what is happening is sexual assault by swapping genders, because so many people think men cannot be sexually assaulted or raped by a woman. It's so ingrained in society that even victims can enter a state of denial and not see or refuse to acknowledge…

Hi Doc,

Yo BaWWaF,

Excellent insight as always. Thanks, Dr. N!

And if sexual attraction always gets in the way, who're bisexuals supposed to be friends with?)

The fact that your girlfriend is treating this as a slight on her is the first red flag. Laying down an ultimatum (and yes, "I'm not going to date someone with depression" is an ultimatum) is another. Right now you're dealing with the fallout from being seriously ill; that's going to do a number on you emotionally,…

I love these articles!

"Dude. Break up with her. Do it now."