Dr. Nerdlove. Go and show him this guy. He covers all the themes. Even how to be a feminist PUA, how to build up confidence, the difference of catcalls and hellos, ALL THE THINGS about being a decent male being when facing women.

I assumed Seattle. I saw an article on my own home town recently with all the reasons ating here sucked and thought "wow, I'm glad I don't live there" because I'd never run into any of those problems.

...You know that's actually not a horrible idea? Kotaku Kouples or some kind of singles siAARGGGH ow just typing couples with a K caused one of my eyes to fly out of my head and now im spraying blood everywhere help

The important thing to note is that anyone who accuses someone of being a white knight has already destroyed any possible chance they had at credibility in the current discussion.

I accidentally blurted out "I love giants robots" on my first date with a woman. She said I had this horrified look on my face like I had ruined everything.

"Those people who're telling you that you're too intimidating, that you're too smart or too whatever and you need to dial it back so you don't hurt dude's precious fee-fees? Fuck those people." x1000

Speaking as someone who is dating a girl who sounds a lot like this, you're spot on that she should act like she knows she's a catch, because she is. She sounds like a girl who can find a common interest with almost anyone in a room, and that's awesome; there's nothing better than introducing your girl to people, and…

Its surprising you haven't found any success with an attitude like that.

Thank you for answering that first letter. I have the exact same back story (sadly common), and I don't want to date either. It's left me with wondering if something is wrong with me or if I am somehow broken because I don't feel it's important to me anymore. But I don't feel bitter, I enjoy meeting new people, and I…

I liked the first letter!
I hate that people have such OBSESSION to "mate" people. Whre did they get the notion that the only way to be happy is being in a relationship or dating someone!???
Finding somebody that is worth is great, sure, even if that relationship ends it would have been a good experience. And you can…

Great Advice on the letter as always and it hit home for me. I am 36 and have been in one serious relationship in my life. My last and only serious relationship was probably about 6-7 years ago and the last time I had anyone interested in me and I was interested in anyone was 3 years ago.

This was very good, practical advice. I like that you didn't belittle the writer's feelings or attempt to make him feel like he has a problem, at the same time making sure he's explored all of the possible reasons for his attitude towards dating.

Well, he did list that as one of the reasons.

Is she someone who hoards slights and grievances like a passive-aggressive squirrel hoarding hate-nuts for the winter?

You're still using terms that shouldn't apply to humans. There aren't 'alpha' and 'beta' humans.
And if there were it would be determined at birth and not subject to manipulation. Thankfully, humans aren't quite that predictable.

I've dated guys that are soft-spoken. I've dated guys that were athletic. I've dated…

The second letter writer....Relax and stop over thinking it. This is what will prevent you from finding someone or regretting it because you tried so hard to make it happen. Relationship and sex should happen more naturally. As Dr. Nerdlove said you should put yourself out there by joining groups that interest you and…

You are so spot on with the response to LW #2. Speaking as a girl/woman who was definitely in the same place, it's great advice. I had my first sexual experience later in life and the gentleman I slept with had no idea. He knew I didn't have much experience in dating and I never told him I hadn't had sex before. We…