Never underestimate the emotional version of the Sunk Cost Fallacy. The more you’ve put into something, the harder it is to give it up.

Kiiiinda the point of the movie by the end.

I married my best of nearly 20 years so... not gonna agree with you on that one.

People think they want certain things (or that they SHOULD want certain things) but don’t realize they can’t handle it until it’s too late.

Sometimes it’s an incredibly smart and successful girlfriend... as long as she’s not TOO smart or successful. Like, more than him.

It uses Mame4All, which is based off of ver .37b5, so you’ll want to stick to that ROMset. It also has Fire Base Alpha for NeoGeo and Capcom games.

He’d probably elaborate on how Haley has been telling me in a dozen different ways that she isn’t interested. He’d mention the fact that she never shows any interest in or real kindness toward me, and would say that her rejection at the dance just made explicit what had already been implicit.

“What kind of weirdo would drink soda at a party?”

On occasion when someone writes back to let me know how they’re doing, I’ll either post an update (with their permission) in an ADNL column or over on the DNL Facebook page.


Our letter writer from last week, f’rex, finally left his girlfriend.

Fun thing: forcing away feelings only intensifies them. Accepting the feelings, letting them flow through you, on the other hand, lets them go away.

A lot of times it can be hard to get out of your own head and accept “yes” for an answer. I know that feel very well.

It’s why it’s important to believe your partner when they say (and show) how they feel about you, because otherwise it ends up being a sad self-fulfilling prophecy.

But deliberately breaking the cycle…

Now that there’re non-SSRI antidepressants, there’re many on the market that don’t kill your libido (or, for that matter, make it impossible to orgasm while you’re on them - ain’t that a motherfucker?). The tricky part is finding ones and the dosage that works for you.

It’s something that comes up a lot when there’s a libido mismatch between partners - and that’s incredibly common because our sex education (when we get it) is a glorified anatomy lesson and doesn’t cover things like “how sex works in relationships” or issues like the fact that different people have different sex…

Roto13, once again missing the entire point so he can focus on his own preconceived notions.

Having complicated feelings for someone, even being attracted to someone, doesn’t automatically lead to problems. Doubly so when your partner is open enough and trusts you enough to mention that they exist in the first place.

St…

There are a couple of options, aside from talking to your doctor about finding different medications because the side-effects make you miserable.

(And, y’know, assuming you want your old libido back.)

One is to for the two of you as a couple to change up your definition of “sex”; for most hetero couples, sex is PIV…

#1 is the question of “how can I have more sex with my partner,” which is, y’know, a legitimate question.

Yup, “crazy violence”. That’s totally the mature response to the situation.

I’m sorry you didn’t get enough hugs growing up.

But no, he doesn’t deserve abuse, nor is being abused like being an alcoholic or any other “Self destructive” behavioral example you bring up. Comparing the two doesn’t work. It’s not even apples and oranges, it’s apples and tap shoes.

Unless you’re talking about a…

A) the alpha/beta divide doesn’t actually exist in nature, only in captivity; in the wild, animal groups are almost entirely familial.

B) The exception being lions, which doesn’t really square up in any case since humans aren’t felines.

C) the only primate species with an dominant male/harem social structure are…

It’s a mistake to think that people in abusive relationships or who return to them are naive. Abuse is a mindfuck and abusers are VERY good at screwing with their victim’s heads.

There are a lot of complicated, conflicting processes that go on when somebody’s trying to leave an abusive relationship. Like I said…