The Guardian, Slate, the Atlantic, Salon, and the Washington Post.

When I used to date online, I would message Asian guys as well as others. However, I didn’t get much response. I do think being black and being overweight were factors in that.

Yes, height can be a burden for men. But so is race. I think that few women can begin to fathom the penalty that Asian American men face in the dating market.

P.S. Is it possible to talk about your physical type without sounding like an asshole? I kind of doubt it.

I’ve been told by too many guys that they never thought they would ever date a black girl, but then they met me. What am I supposed to do with that? Am I supposed to feel special? (I don’t.) Am I supposed to congratulate you on your social awakening? Do you want a cookie?

... I can’t help but think this argument is only ever presented when a person is arguing for one’s own sexual preferences or those of their in-group. It also seems to suggest that these attractions are always innate and there’s just no helping them. Your preferences are just the way you are, but everyone else’s are…

Yeah, it always amuses me when someone says that they’ve never found a black woman attractive, but it has nothing to do with race or society. Really? You’ve never ever ever seen a black woman that you thought was attractive, even on tv? With ‘black’ encompassing a wide variety of admixtures (especially in the US) and…

It’s fine to have preferences. It’s when you start rejecting otherwise great people for arbitrary hard and fast rules that it gets to be self-defeating. If a guy is 5’11” and great, but you don’t date anyone under 6’, that might be worth examining.

I was more talking about the use of “body shaming”.

I think one of the reasons that internet dating is so hard is because it encourages people to be shallow and have some fairly arbitrary standards. There’s always another picture to look at, so why not reject the one that isn’t totally hot? I’d prefer this height or someone within x miles of me and I don’t even need to…

When did this conversation morph from being about about physical traits to behavioral ones though? Those are completely different things.

I don’t have a problem dating short guys, so I don’t know why you think I have that “personality flaw”. I wish more women would give short guys a chance, just as I wish more guys would give overweight women a chance, or that all people would be more accepting in general.

You can have a personal preference without body shaming someone. There’s a difference in saying you prefer thinner women and saying fat women are repulsive. Also, in most situations, there’s really no need to define your preferences. If you see a picture of someone who doesn’t rock your boat, just move on. It’s the…

I think that more than a few guys are reluctant to date a girl that doesn’t fit into society’s beauty standard because of what their friends might say, especially in high school/college. I’ve had more than one guy tell me that their friends questioned him dating me either due to my weight or due to me being black.…

Yeah, I’m short, but not ‘petite’ or dainty and so my height is no advantage.

One of my best female friends is 5’8” and she won’t consider anyone who is shorter than 6’, because she wants to be shorter than he is even if she’s in heels. She says it would make her feel unfeminine. Most of my other friends are shorter, but still prefer tall men.

But that’s like blaming other people for his own behavior and personality flaws. I know plenty of people who were dealt bad hands that manage to not be jerks about it.

I don’t think most people want to face up to the fact of how much their ideas of beauty and what’s appealing is influenced by society’s ideals and what they’ve been exposed to. They’d rather throw up their hands and claim what they like is inherent, rather than examine their biases and broaden their horizons. While…

I don’t do “usual percentage” on really small tabs like that myself, because I figure (especially for all-you-can-eat) that the server has to give me as much attention as if I’d ordered an expensive meal. So on an $11 tab I’d probably go at least 50%. More if I had a lot of refills, and definitely in a group. Every…

This. I’d star you, but I can’t from my phone.