The aforementioned wife is a BYU alumna born and raised in the USSR, just FYI.

I think we already know the answer to that:

I’m getting the feeling maybe you should be the one to go see a therapist?

This one, brighter. The BDSM community numbers in the millions in the US alone, and that survey was from multiple countries.

Did...I insult you? I’m not sure where I did, but I sure didn’t intend to.

After reading your comments and hers there is no point in trying to “enlighten” you. Your minds are made up, the judgment and condescension dripping from every syllable. Why waste my time on this gorgeous Sunday?

Is there? Afaik some 20% of all female college students have to deal with sexual assault and that number is at least estimated to be significantly below that of the average female population. So that 30% seems to be very easy to hit for any group, especially one whose members are more open about their sexual…

So what a straight, sub woman doesn’t get any? Listen, I literally don’t orgasam without some power play and bit of pain. I shouldn’t get sexual pleasure because it offends your definition of feminism?

“Fuck off, mayonnaise sex with the light off...”

Are you serious? Rough sex is totally a thing people are into and it’s completely acceptable. It isn’t self harm it comes from a different place.

You realize there are bad people everywhere right? It’s fine if you don’t like any of it and suspect it is unhealthily. It is not fine to pretend your feelings are facts.

Would you refer every person who is into BDSM sex to a therapist? Ever heard of ‘two consenting adults’?

I’m sorry that has been your experience brighter. That is not acceptable. However that doesn’t mean that BDSM in general or the people who enjoy it are, as a rule, dangerous, unhealthy or in need of counseling. This is what Healing Crystals has said. This is wrong.

Did I say that they were demigods? I said that consent was a foundational concept in the community, which your own data supports.

The fact that you compare self harming to liking rough and or kinky sex says it all.

I’m not going to jump down your throat. But you might want to educate yourself on the BDSM lifestyle.

The BDSM community holds consent as sacred. If you were at all familiar with the subject you would know this. Please don’t declare people as not ‘normal’ when you clearly are talking out of your ass.

Thank you for this.

I see where you are coming from but I don’t think society has actually worshiped people who commit mass murder. Normal and even lots of not normal people understand that what this guy did, the act is heinously evil and wrong. He understood it, he wouldn’t have taken his own life otherwise. If we could point to…

Thank you, this is the perfect response. I was trying to figure out a way to converse with this person and here you came along and provided it for me! Very well put.