Exaaaaaactly.

Awww, “the kids will always be hers.” That’s some patronizing bullshit.

It’s such bullshit. OF COURSE it’s easier to just go with the flow and do the thing that causes less social friction. Social friction is the way that patriarchy is preserved and perpetuated. The fact that it’s harder for women to resist taking their husband’s names (let alone for husbands to take their wives’ names)…

Oh man, the kids’ names. People get even crazier about that. My husband and I are thinking about having kids, and I don’t think there’s any way I’d agree to just giving them his name. Maybe just a new last name for them altogether. I know at least one family that did that—just gave their kids a brand-new last name…

Yeah. And it’s also disappointing to me how few dudes are changing their names when they get married, too. You’d think that there’d be more woke baes out there who’d be willing to switch to their wives’ names to help normalize the practice and even things out.

Please don’t misunderstand, I like my name quite a lot. And I like that I have both my parents’ names. There’s a reason I kept it when I got married. What infuriates me is when other people can’t handle a hyphenated name, when hyphenated names really aren’t that uncommon. 

It’s incredibly depressing. It feels like regression.

Another anecdote! My parents are both PhDs, and neither of them changed their names when they got married. But when my dad got remarried later on, he and his wife both changed their names.

My dad (who’s actually in academia, incidentally!) changed his name when he got remarried in the mid-1990s. When I mentioned this fact to my mother-in-law, she looked at me in horror and remarked about how that would make it complicated for genealogists. Like ... what? First of all, I’m sure that it’s about ten…

My dad changed his name when he got married. Are you calling my dad a pussy?

I was born with a hyphenated name. It’s a fucking nightmare when bureaucrats just use the first half of my last name and ignore the second half like it’s optional, or assume that the first part is a middle name and just use the second half.

When my parents got married in the early 80s, both my parents kept their names. They later divorced, and when my dad remarried, he and his wife BOTH changed their names (into a new hybrid name). I recently got married myself, and the paperwork was a bit weird: The forms asked me for my mother’s maiden and married…

hahaha, this is great!

Yep, you can get high-quality eggs almost anywhere in the US, you just have to know where to find them!

This is a good question. The recall specifies that it covers eggs from Rose Acre Farms’ Hyde County farm. It also notes that the eggs from this farm were sold under store brand names:

Teva Olowahus. They are the only sandal that I can wear in hot, sweaty DC summers without my feet getting destroyed. They are incredible. I cannot say enough good things about them. And at $20-ish, there is no reason for everyone not to have a pair.

The take-away: Women must be either “beautiful” or striving to be “beautiful,” even if we settle on a definition of beauty that’s something like “the inner beauty you have when you know you are beautiful no matter what you look like because of your smarts and sense of humor and kindness and generosity!!!!” The idea…

Yes. I ... think? hope? that things are slowly improving, because I see other female politicians getting plenty of hate, though not nearly as much as Clinton. But that might just be because they haven’t run for president yet.

Cultivating relationships is external, it takes work and skill, and it absolutely contributes to society at large.

Definitely.