Well, other women have agreed with my assertion. And...

I am not that bothered by “there is no excuse for men to be bad at sex.” I just am getting so many responses, and I keep responding to them. I think that women would hate it if a man wrote, “There is so much information out there, there is no excuse for a woman to be bad at blowjobs, and just getting your man to come…

Why do I want to date? Yes, I am lonely. I really am lacking in any significant human connection. I think that my personal growth has been stunted by years of loneliness. I am 32, but in many ways an adolescent. I want someone to care for, and to care for me.

I’ll check out his history, thanks. But I stand by my comments here. As far as THIS thread, I agree with him.

I coach men in getting out of the performance mindset, back into the pleasure mindset. Into embodiment and mindfulness, out of a goal-oriented approach to sex. Out of their head (and the parade of thoughts: “am I doing this right? Will I come? Will I come to soon? Am I inadequate”) and into their bodies. Focusing on…

When I am “in the game” (trying to find a girlfriend) I often feel like a soldier during WWI running through no man’s land. There are a thousand ways for me to die. And the women are in the other trench firing their machine guns.

If we are including the woman’s contribution, I don’t think that it is flatly false that “maintaining an erection” is the easiest part of heterosexual vaginal sex. I think that “lying there and getting fucked” is far easier than “maintaining an erection.” Keep in mind that a big part of “maintaining an erection” is…

Yeah, you’re right, well spotted! Getting and maintaining an erection is harder than you might imagine. And when I do have sex, it is certainly a harder endeavor for me than for her. Honestly, I really don’t think that this can be debated, it is so damn obvious. If you don’t care about my opinion because I don’t have…

I’m going to repeat something a commenter told me years ago that I liked so much I never forgot it: Thank you for being awesome all over this thread.

I just wasn’t that thrilled by this article’s opening line, “there is no excuse for heterosexual men to be bad at sex.” The article is mainly about fingering, oral sex, and kissing, which are pretty easy, but I really doubt that a man who is good at those, and generally bad at vaginal sex would be considered “good at…

Sure, but by and large, heterosexual vaginal sex is more demanding for the man. And by and large, sucking dick is more demanding than eating pussy. Not always, but by and large. Also, the man does have to get and maintain an erection, which is not always the easiest thing.

Yeah,I guess. Doesn’t everyone feel bad when anyone is mean? People often say that men have fragile egos, as if women do not. Yet, women are well known to have self esteem issues, and there are certain topics which men are told to be sensitive regarding women. It makes me wonder why it is that men are seen as the…

A man would never put a woman’s feelings before his plessure.

I don’t know what’s going on here. I am not sure if you’re not being willfully obtuse. Yeah, each woman has a different way of getting her jollies. But men have more responsibilities in heterosexual vaginal sex. If you don’t agree, whatever, but I am done answering “how so?”

Well, the OP in this thread says she tells men when “they don’t get the job done.” If she is literally saying that, uh, I think she really should switch to the more positive, “ok, so how about some oral or finger action?”

Fine, the woman can just lie there motionless like a dead fish. The man will still likely orgasm, she will likely not, but they both “had sex.”

You know what fucking sucks? Spending 12 hours straight in a 120 degree kitchen and then getting on your knees and eating out your girlfriend for 45 minutes only to be told to piss off and it’s not gonna happen. Sorry if that doesn’t arouse me and won’t get your delicate little flower off. It takes more than one…

Yeah, those guys are assholes and should expect to get dumped.

A) yeah, blowjobs are harder than eating pussy. Elsewhere, I comment that that is true, and also heterosexual sex is harder for men than for women.

Well, I guess you’re really great. Some men might orgasm before he got a chance to really get a grasp of her needs. At that point, it is time to start with the oral and finger action. This OP said that after vaginal sex she tells men “you didn’t get the job done,” which I think is unkind phrasing to do before he…