I wonder if all the people on here bitching about narcisim would say this to someone who has PTSD from seeing the WTC on 9/11. Would you go up to them and say "it didn't happen TO you!". Or soldiers who have PTSD from being overseas (a lot of them never actually saw real action). My boyfriend has PTSD from military…

So wait, someone sees someone get hit by a bus as though they were a squirrel and because the person hit is from a third world country and the person upset by it is from the white privileged first world, they're what? Supposed to shrug it off? Because that would be somehow more authentic to the class they were born…

our empathy, after all, is a limited resource. we must always ration it, especially when such a rationing helps demonstrate to others how we have ascended to the realm of complete and total objective understanding of other people's complex interior lives.

For these reason my sympathy for you will always be very limited. Let's not forget who the real victims are here.

This part struck me: We have to denigrate ourselves and invalidate our own experience. We can't help it. I was as susceptible to that as you are and as everyone else is. And most people I meet will say the same thing, no matter how much therapy they've been through. There's no acceptance for just taking someone's…

I think it's an excellent thing to talk about two things that many people who work who work in health fields or disaster relief or other types of international work involving violence and displacement have had to deal with—compassion fatigue and vicarious traumatization. I haven't worked in disaster relief but I have…

This is exactly my case. If I/Her/Both of us were totally in love, then post breakup friendship has never happened. If it's more of a casual, date for a few weeks, hook up a few times, I tend to stay close with those people. The line between friendship and love never became blurred, so it was easy to fall back to what…

I have been married for 10 years. All of my exes and I dated when I was really young. All of my exes were/are complete dickbags. I have not one bit of an inclination to know how they are currently doing. I had one try to get in touch with me a couple of years back after not speaking for half a decade. Maybe he's a…

In my experience, you can be friends with your exes granted you didn't care too much for them in the first place.

I would honestly die if Kelsey is the Bachelorette. Die of sheer happiness for the weekly narcissism we could witness. #blessed

If you watched the show, she didn't actually cry. She just squnched up her face a lot with no waterworks. Acting!

I was about to turn the channel because Britt's "I'm such a poor victim" bullshit was really getting irritating. Carly was mean when she said "Now you know what it feels like to be a normal girl." That was weird and rude. But none of it was cause for Britt to hysterically cry (tearless crying, though...a very bizarre…

Everytime I see Britt cry. Every. Time.

There's always a girl on The Bachelor who signed up for this show but can't handle the premise and implodes because everyone else is flirting with/kissing HER boyfriend. This season, it's Britt. The second she realized there's a chance she may not win she bolted, but not before trying to manipulate Chris into begging…

Yeah, I think I'm team neither in this situation. Carly said some really mean things, but Britt never came across as particularly genuine. And she seemed a little too ready to blame Carly considering the fact that she told everyone she was going to ask to leave.

FYI, you're kind of an entitled asshole. The reason many places ban perfume is because of people with allergies, asthma, or migraines. Perfume can trigger a hour or days long migraine for some people.

Agreed.

WTF. Really? Just paint the damn picture and keep your political commentary out of it. Jesus. Can we repaint the official portrait of Reagan to make commentary on how his AIDS policies killed thousands of people?

Anything that can make Yelp useless, I'm behind 100% When you can be a shit dick in a restaurant and still get treated like royalty because you might leave a bad Yelp review, there are some problems.